posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would tell your husband that the guest list is too much, and that the shower almost didn’t happen in the first place so how can the men really be upset for not getting invited? Or maybe suggest he does something with all the men at the time of the shower…. go to a bar or something…. I would tell him you have enough on your plate and he should call your mom and figure it out. 

Post # 4
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry your husband is not supporting you in your decision. Maybe you could tell him that the stress of having a huge coed shower might be way to overwhleming to you and cause un-needed pressure for you and the baby. If he wants a big party, tell him to have a men’s diaper shower. That’s what my husband will be doing. Sending you (hugs) and hoping that things work out for the best.

Post # 5
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Do NOT under any circumstances let these folks push you into having an event you do not want to have! I would like to think while a woman is pregnant, she would have the most power to stand up for herself and demand what is best for herself (and as such for baby a/k/a not being in an overly stressful environment). Don’t be sad, be empowered and put your foot down!

1 – Say no baby shower period to everyone and go have a nice lunch with your 6 friends and call it a day.

2 – If your husband is still so insistent on having this over the top gathering for your families (and you reconsider and are OK with that) then maybe HE needs to figure out the financial component (maybe as a team with your Mom/his Grandma).

Since everyone else is so invested in you having a shower, make it their problem and see how fast it works out! Good luck!


Post # 6
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That just sounds like too much stress for you and for your mom.

If that is the way his family does showers then they can plan & pay for it. If your mom can only afford something small with the woman then that is what she should do. I personaly wouldn’t want a shower with men there.

But if you really don’t want something right now, then just tell everyone you are not up to it and it is not up for discussion.

Maybe something could be planned for a month or so after the baby is born and then everyone can get together and see the baby too.

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