(Closed) Baby Shower Not Opening Gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: I would be okay with the mother to be...
    Open all the gifts in front of an audience : (79 votes)
    59 %
    The host request gifts unwrapped on the invite then display them : (32 votes)
    24 %
    Dont open any gifts/Have the mom open gifts if she is asked infront of the person who asked : (18 votes)
    13 %
    Everyone pick a gift and do a mass unwrapping once everyone has arrived : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    7200 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Letsparty:  Personally, I don’t think it’s very nice. If people are bringing you gifts, the least you can do is open them and look happy about it. The point of a SHOWER is to “shower you with gifts”. If you don’t want to do your part, you don’t get to have a shower.

    That said, apparently “display showers” are a thing now. People bring unwrapped gifts with just a bow on them and you set them up so everyone can see. I guess that’s a work around for you.

    Post # 4
    2555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’d love this. There’s nothing more boring than watching someone open presents, it’s often awkward and fake, and soooo uncomfortable for the opener!

    Post # 5
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I guess it would cut down on time…. but that’s so rude.  I guess you or her mom could open the gifts in front of everyone? 

    Post # 6
    808 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I can understand why they don’t open presents at little kids birthday parties but haven’t heard of not opening gifts at a shower.

    Post # 7
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley

    I would never think to invite people to a shower (showers are generally to “shower” with gifts) and not open the gifts. A lot of the fun for everyone is seeing the cute stuff and the mom’s reaction. I’d think it was kind of rude not to open them. 

    Post # 8
    2555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t see what’s wrong with eating, celebrating, and then opening presents in private and thanking the giver.

    Post # 9
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I have a friend who was very uncomfortable opening gifts in front of everyone. The slight comprimise was that the host asked everyone to wrap their gift in clear paper, so people (including the mother-to-be) could see the gifts, but she didn’t have to be the center of attention for the time it would take to open every present.

    Post # 10
    892 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    If its a smallerish shower then I think opening gifts is the best thing to do. I’m talking less then 10 gifts though. I like the idea “display showers” as PP’s said just popping a bow on something, not wrapping it and bringing it.

    When it comes time for my bridal/baby showers. I probably will not be opening gifts, the last thing I want to do is sit there opening gifts infront of people for an hour (My bridal shower “basic” list is 47 ladies – I wouldn’t want to sit thourgh that as a guest!)

    The guests will get a proper individual thank you in a card after the shower (at least in my case!)


    Post # 11
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @bebero: +1!

    So boring to sit through all the wrapping paper and squeals of (sometimes obviously fake) delight. However, I think ones opinion on opening presents in public depends a lot on your upbringing. I hate it, Fiance loves it. In my family, we would only watch gift opening during birthdays, while Christmas was a happy tumult of present. In FI’s family we have to take turns opening gifts. He gets frustrated with my family because “the good gifts doesn’t get the attention they deserve” & I get frustrated with his family because it takes a bloody EON to work through all the presents and I feel like a complete fake when everyone is looking at me and I have to go “Wow, I’m so in love with these coasters!”.

    Post # 12
    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Personally I wouldn’t have a shower if I didn’t want to open gifts in front of an audience.

    Post # 13
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think this is fine. The easiest way to go about this is to just have a big gift table that everyone can deposit the gifts on and then have a big party rather than the normal shower with the set schedule of eat, games, cake and gifts. This is easier when it’s a huge gathering. The other option is to only have unwrapped gifts, which really works with the mom’s eco-friendly theme. However, this depends on your guests because I think some guests may feel embarrassed if their gifts are less extravagant than other people’s.

    By the way, if she doesn’t end up opening gifts and ooh-ing and aah-ing in front of people, then she should absolutely send out Thank You cards ASAP so people feel appreciated. We’ve been to showers/parties where gifts were not opened and we don’t receive a Thank You card or any kind of acknowledgement (even a text/email). We just want to know it was received (i.e. didn’t get lost) and, hopefully, that it was a nice gift.

    Post # 15
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think the mom needs to get over it. 

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