Post # 1
I’m hosting a baby shower for my sister, have sent the invites to the friends she wanted to invite, I’ve had quite a few RSVP and say they’ll be bringing kids! It bothers me a little, as it’s at my parent’s house, and the room we will be playing the games etc in is going to be a bit of a stretch as it is with everyone that’s invited (assuming they can come). What do I do? The house isn’t exactly kid friendly (this will be the first baby in our family, so we’re not used to having kids around!), is it up to me to organise something for the kids to do, or do parents normally bring something along to entertain them? Hadn’t really counted on children being there (Although I understand that if their mums don’t have anyone else to look after them for a few hours, they do need to bring them, yet I’m a little miffed that it wasn’t asked – just assumed it would be okay!). Feeling a little frustrated!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s a strange assumption, as it is a baby shower – emphasis on baby. That said, the firs time these things happen, it takes you by surprise. People in your life having kids is a shift in life-stage, and those usually catch us off-guard. I think just let them know, informally, that, as there are no children in the house, there aren’t toys, etc. Tell them that they are very welcome (phrase it that way, as it feels less of an imposition imo) to bring their child’s favourite books and/or small toys so that they are not bored. Just make it about ensuring the kids are taken care of, rather than “kept busy.” A good way to emphasise that you are happy to have the kids as guests is to ask the moms what suitable snacks you should have on hand for the kids, as you’re inexperienced, and do your best to accomodate. That way, they see you are not annoyed, just trying to make it a good party for everyone.
Post # 4
kids have been present at many baby showers I have attended. You are not obligated to entertain the kids- that is the parent’s job. And if the house isn’t kid friendly- its time to make it that way- your sister’s baby is coming!
Post # 5
I have never been to a baby shower without kids. It’s the one event where I assume kids are invited.