(Closed) Baby Shower Planning nightmare

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should you have a say on a Baby Shower someone else is throwing for you?
    No, you should be greatful that anyone is planning a shower for you : (9 votes)
    22 %
    Yes. Nobody wants a tacky shower : (8 votes)
    20 %
    You can give hints but it is ultimately up to the host. : (24 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    1778 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I didn’t answer the poll because the option I wanted was not there.  I think that it depends on who is throwing the shower and also how you interact with that person.  If it was say my boss throwing it, I would expect to have no input at all.  If it was my family, I would feel a little freer to express my opinions, however I would not be rude about it and would be very grateful.  It also would depend on whether they asked for my opinion or not.

    I do think that everyone is entitled to a certain level of comfort, meaning that if certain foods are not well tolerated or certain themes/games would make the person uneasy, then they should be able to say no to those types of things.  Other than basics I would say most people shouldn’t really be involved unless asked.

    Post # 4
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @amoret11:  I’ve planned a baby shower. I asked my BFF to write a list of what type of decor, food, and games she wanted and hosted the shower of her dreams. She really loved it. I’m a Type A personality and so when I leave it up to other people I get disappointed and emotionally upset.

    I’m currenlty preggo and I’m planning my own shower. Call me tacky, but I KNOW what I want in terms of decor, food, and games. My aunt has offered to host it but she is taking my advice. I’m buying a lot of the decor and the professional cake.

    Post # 5
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    i really like to be in control. i have seen far too many events happen in a way that the person who it is for, never ever wanted. I think i have always had an idea of what kind of shower i would like, and honestly why shouldnt i get the shower i want. Yes i understand that you are hosting, but remember it is for your sister, HER and HER baby. It shouldnt be about what you want, or what the other hosts want. Also please remember that your sister is very hormonal at the moment. Things that dont seem to be big issues are. perhaps shes now being very forceful with what she wants because she feels as thogh shes not being heard?? And honestly at the end of the day if she helps with the planning of it who is it going to hurt???

    Not trying to be rude, just helpful 🙂 hope you are all able to get through the rest of the planning with out too much trouble, Goodluck!

    Post # 6
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    If somebody is nice enough to throw you a baby shower, you should butt out of the planning completely unless the host specifically asks for your input.

    Post # 7
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I really think that the person who the shower is in honor of should have some say. I think whoever throwing the shower should ask for an invite list and ask for input on themes and maybe even games.


    Post # 8
    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    That stinks that you guys have had to resort to hiring a planner…

    I’ve only hosted 1 baby shower… it was a surprise, for a new friend who was having her third baby girl… She didn’t have any input because she didn’t know about it… but I did ask her mom for a few tips on food and such…

    I’d at least listen to your sister’s requests, and try to forgive her for being rude… Obviously you love her enough to throw her a shower… she’s probably a real sweetheart who is just a hormonal mess right now… esp if it’s her first baby shower – she probably has high expections from pinterest overload! lol!

    Good luck hun!

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