Baby Shower Registry

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
6947 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Beats me if it’s common or not, but it makes sense, just like any other registry.  Why buy a carseat when they already have one?  Why get a walker when the expectant mom thinks they are bad for baby? Why buy from this brand when they don’t trust it? 

Personally I love the homemade things and I liked getting a variety of diapers from work so we could see which brand was best for us (Huggies stink! Literally).  But I also did not appreciate the ‘off registry’ (I made one but didn’t share it) items like handprint frames.  They don’t suit our style at all and are still in the package.  It’s a waste of money.

People think registries are rude all around because it puts out the expectation of gifts, but a) a shower expects gifts anyway and b) I’d rather get something that won’t go to waste.  I’m all about the registry or wish list for any event.

Post # 3
612 posts
Busy bee

Every baby shower I’ve ever been invited to has included a registry. Not sure if it’s regional (I’m in the US).

I love registries. They make my life so much easier. Plus, I’m nosy and love knowing what different people like.

My mom started asking us to make Amazon Wish Lists a few years back so she can pull from them for our birthdays and Christmas. Honestly I wish everyone did that – I find shopping for other people to be so stressful. 

Post # 6
162 posts
Blushing bee

Very interesting! It is NOT done where I am but I am the first of my friends to fall pregnant. Because of this, I have already had a request to register and invites are not even close to being sent out (I’m not throwing my own shower but my host wants my input, so I know the details)! My friends are so generous but they have no idea what I want/need. I am really torn about it. I don’t want to seem gift grabby or take away the experience of them picking anything from their heart, but at the same time, I don’t want them to stress over really not knowing or if I am completely honest, for me to end up with endless expensive newborn outfits (Babies grow so quickly!). Don’t get me wrong, I am so grateful for anything I receive and would be happy to not get gifts at all but it will be a little painful seeing my baby throw up on a designer onsie when money is tight.

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janne91 :  You said you had never heard of them, if you were sent a registry would you consider it rude? 

Post # 8
2349 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s not the done thing in New Zealand either. Baby showers are a new thing anyway. I’m holding my sister’s baby shower next month and some guests have asked what she needs so I’ve given them a list.

It includes things like pram toys,  clothes etc. Nothing pricey.  

Post # 10
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’m in the US, I’ve noticed over the years that baby registries have become more and more popular, to the point that every baby shower I’ve been to over the past few years have a baby shower. Years ago, before baby registries were a thing (at least in my area), I remember that the mother would get a lot of duplicates for things where you don’t need duplicates, or they’d just get a ton of clothes and toys (because duplicates of those are fine) but they wouldn’t get any of some other stuff because people didn’t want the mother to end up with 5 baby monitors lol. So I think baby registries are really helpful when it comes to baby showers.

Post # 11
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I’m in Canada and I have never been to a shower without a registry. Mom’s to be will make the registries and whatever they don’t get from friends/family at the shower they will buy for themselves. It’s a nice little shopping list. 

Post # 12
7591 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Baby showers and baby registries are 100% the norm where I’m from in the U.S. Even 2nd or 3rd time moms will usually create a small registry and just share it directly with anyone who asks for it (usually you don’t have a shower for subsequent babies after the first one). It’s basically a shopping list – plus a lot of places will give you a discount for any of the items you end up purchasing yourself, which is nice!

That said, posting your registry on social media for all the world to see is def tacky as hell lol. Mine was included on my shower invites but that’s it.

Post # 13
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’m in the US and have only been to two baby showers, one of which was like 7 or 8 years ago and my friend did not have a registry. I went to one a few months ago and there was a registry. I didnt find it weird at all, I was actually glad they had a registry because I suck at gift giving, and REALLY suck at gift giving when it comes to babies.

Post # 14
2178 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it’s kind of a new thing within the last decade anyway but yes registries are common in the u.s. now.  I was recently invited to a baby shower with no registry info on the cards and immediately texted the expectant mom to ask about a registry.  I would rather buy something they need than cutesy clothes.

Post # 15
7669 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

US Bee–I’ve been to at least 30 baby showers over the past two decades or so and they all had either a registry or a theme (such as books). 

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