Post # 1
So I was invited to the baby shower for a friend – not a super close friend but we see eachother a few times a year and I really like her and her hubby. I was super excited when I got the invitation because I love showers – I think they signify an exciting time in your life and it’s really awesome to have all of your favorite people around to celebrate your milestone!
So anyways, I RSVP-d on time and immediately started shopping for her registry. About 10 minutes after I sent my RSVP by email (to her cousin, as requested on the invitation) I get a response: It basically said thanks for RSVPing and that we were going to have a great time at the shower. THEN it goes on to say something like, “In order to make it easier on you, please bring the gifts unwrapped. No boxes or paper – if you must, a gift tag can be attached. We will display all of your gifts for everyone’s enjoyment.”
After reading the email, I was just super turned off. I know some people don’t like to unwrap presents in front of a crowd, but if that’s the situation, don’t have a shower. I feel like I put time and thought into the gift and I really enjoy watching people open what I’ve chosen for them. Is this a new thing?? Am I the only one who thinks this is super rude? Like, you’re telling me what to buy AND how to wrap it?? I know some people will say that watching a mom-to-be unwrap gifts is boring, but maybe I’m just traditional in thinking that THAT IS THE POINT OF THE SHOWER.
Just wanted to hear some thoughts – maybe I can gain a new perspective!!
Post # 2
wow. I’ve been to approximately 16225 baby showers in my lifetime (I’m pretty old) and have never heard this. I’m interested to see if this is a new thing?
Post # 3
Does it have anything to do with reducing waste?
Post # 4
Eh, that wouldn’t bother me. All the paper and bows and tape end up being a huge mess to clean up for the host. It’s all waste anyway. Plus it’ll save time for the mom-to-be when she opens up cards and shares the gifts with the guests. It gets pretty boring after the 10th wrapped gift is opened.
Post # 5
dispup: There have been previous threads about this “display” shower. It usually has nothing to do with reducing waste, and everything to do with a guest of honor who thinks opening gifts is boring but still wants all those gifts.
Post # 6
I’ve heard of this. If it’s a big shower, it could literally take the entire shower to open all presents, and it’s a huge waste of paper. Also, some restaurants and such don’t let you use their trash and you have to lug all the paper home.
If it bothers you, still wrap it! And she definitely could have phrased it in a nicer way!
Post # 7
Basically the Mom-to-be just is too damn lazy to open presents. How is this easier on you? They aren’t doing this to make things easier on you, they are doing this to make things “easier” on the pregnant lady. But really, how hard is it to open a present? I didn’t realize ripping paper was so exhausting (ugh).
I agree with you. I think this is completely ridiculous. If I were you I would wrap whatever present I bought in the most fabulous fashion you could think of.
Post # 8
CityBearBride: But the whole point of a shower is for the honoree to OPEN the presents. This is 100% about the honoree just not wanting to deal with opening presents but still wants people to bring her shit.
Post # 9
dispup: Personally, I hate the unwrapping part. As long as I get a card thanking me for what I brought, I’m totally down with skipping that part. I’d rather eat, socialize, and then go home and NOT watch someone open gifts for hours….UGH.
Post # 10
freckles071611: haha I was actually contemplating wrapping it up like a Russian nesting doll!! Like 8 boxes and 10 layers of gift wrap 🙂 I wish I had the balls…
Post # 11
dispup: My cousin did this because she is a very “green” person. To the point that she asked for organic baby goods as well. I was surprised she went as far to say, do not wrap the gifts, but that’s truly what she wanted because that’s what she believes in, for that reason alone I was happy to do it. This mom-to-be might be the same way.
Post # 12
I would hate this request. An unwrapped gift seems… I don’t know, utilitarian?
Post # 13
I think it depends on the number of guests. If there are 20 people it will take about an 45min to unwrap presents. If there are 60 people it could go for more than 2 hours. Most showers I’ve been to are about four hours long. I’d rather chat, eat and play games than watch gifts be unwrapped for more than an hour.
Post # 14
It depends on the reasoning behind it. It sounds weird to me and she certainly didn’t approach it in the right way.
Post # 15
I’ve seen many registries these days that request no gift wrapping in an effort to go green and limit additional waste. Although you can’t force people not to wrap a gift, it isn’t necessarily about laziness. The bride to be is not the one hosting, anyway. I’d be happy to comply, personally.
Showers and shower gifts are supposedly low key and modest, so it shouldn’t be that big of a deal. LOL.