(Closed) Baby Shower – Requesting Unwrapped Gifts???

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

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dispup:  DO IT!!!!!  And then sneak the present in so no one saw who it came from and don’t put your name on it.  That would be the only way I would do it.  I would then buy a smaller present, still wrap it, but not so crazy like, and put my name on it.  Then I would sit back and enjoy the irritated looks on the hosts/mom-to-bes face when they have to open the Russian doll present with no name.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I guess I am in the minority here but I think this seems like a wonderful idea. It reduces waste, PLUS saves everyone from having to spend an hour watching the guest of honor open a bunch of boring presents.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Oops, we did this for my sister since she didn’t want to open presents.  I hate watching people open presents at showers and didn’t know this was bad!

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t really mind I guess.  Saves me the time and $ spent wrapping the gift.  Plus all of that is just a big waste anyway.  Although I do like the surprise factor that comes with wrapping.  Although, I think it’s fun to sometimes see what all the mother gets (like cute clothes and stuff) so I think I’d still be nice for everyone to be able to see everything and put some focus on that.  Maybe it’s like a 60+ person shower?  In that case opening gifts can take hours so I understand wanting to cut that down.  I mean just with 30 people it can take an hour to open all the gifts.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Personally, if this mom doesn’t want to open gifts, she shouldn’t get any. Sorry but yeah just a touch rude there. Seems like also a huge gateway for judging people. 

“Did you see what Betty bought? Gosh it looks like she just picked something off the clearance rack. Ew.” (No offense to clearance shoopers!)

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m shocked that a lot of people want to sit and watch someone open gifts. It is soooo boring to me. It could take hours! But I guess it just goes to show you can’t please everyone.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

It does seem like kind of a strange request. But if that’s what they want then I guess just don’t wrap it. I think it’s kind of rude of some people who have said the mom-to-be is “too lazy” to unwrap the gifts. Maybe it’s not even her idea. Unless she’s planning her own shower and you’re RSVP-ing to her, then she shouldn’t be to blame. Maybe it is her idea but people are just so quick to sling hate and call her lazy and rude. How is that okay? Wrap it if you want, or don’t wrap it and save yourself the time and wrapping paper. 

Granted, it’s a really weird request. I’ve never heard this one before so I’m kind of neutral about it. But it seems like a really small detail to make a fuss about. The paper just gets thrown out anyway. As long as you get a thank-you from the host or mom to be, who the heck cares?

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  ellep91010.
Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

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dispup:  I agree.  And again, for all those that hate watching gifts be open.  The ENTIRE point of a shower is to give and watch gifts be open.  If you don’t like that, then don’t go to the shower. Pretty simple stuff.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

Oh and if you hate opening gifts, then decline any shower that is offered to you.  Because that is the point of a shower, to receive and open gifts.  If you won’t take the time to open a gift that is being given to you at a SHOWER then you really don’t deserve the gift.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d be more concerned about cake.  We usually eat cake when watching the mom-to-be open gifts.  Will there still be cake?   As long as there’s cake it’s fine    

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’ve definitely heard of this and I love the idea.  I hate sitting at a shower where 99% of the time is spend watching the person unwrap gifts.  I remember being mortified at my own shower where people watched me unwrap gifts.  I hated the attention.  If I have children and I have a shower (which I really really really don’t want…but I have two sisters and a mother that won’t let me have my way lol) this is one thing I will put my foot down about.  If people bring gifts, I will not be opening them at the shower.  I would rather spend my time visiting and spending time with everyone.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

This isn’t being directed towards anyone, just more of a general observation…

Another thing to add for thought, I don’t understand why people are so judgemental over the smallest things. Weddings, baby showers, etc. Why can’t people just accept the invite and be a gracious guest, or decline the invite if you have such a problem. Anyone should feel free to host an event without having to worry about people who get offended too easily. If a host is being blatantly rude, knows it, and doesn’t care, then by all means you have every right to get upset and start the namecalling. But what’s “lazy and rude” for some might simply be an effort to reduce paper waste. And that’s their business, not the guests to burn them at the stake over.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

 

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dispup:  It’s a new thing. From what I’ve seen,it’s because the gift opening part is pretty boring after the first few gifts. Nearly every shower I’ve been to (bridal or baby), people lose interest and are just kind bored, sitting there. Especially if it is a large shower, do you really want to spend 2 hours watching someone open gifts (or be the one sitting there, opening gifts for 2 hours) when you could be mingling with guests? I think it’s a great, practical way to spend more time interacting with everyone. In my experience, the gifts are put on a table and everyone goes over and checks it out and it’s a bit of a conversation starter.  There’s always some wrapped gifts, which then they just open towards the end. Also the ones I’ve been to, the honoree has always thanked the guests and been very gracious.

The point of a shower to is shower the bride with gifts – which, a display shower does exactly that.  I have a lot of pet peeves about showers and greediness, don’t get me wrong lol but I don’t personally find this rude or offensive at all. I don’t think you need to go into over-wrapping it to make a point. Just bring a wrapped gift or bring an unwrapped one. Or just respectfully rescind your RSVP.

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