Post # 46
I really don’t think this is that big of a deal! My bridal shower was over 70 people, I didn’t open a single gift because it would be a royal waste of time for everyone there! Instead, I used the extra time to go around to everyone’s table and have real conversations with them. I’m sure the mom-to-be would love to sit & have conversations with friends & family she may not have seen in a while and hear stories & advice rather than spending 2+ hours opening gifts.
While I love to put thought & detail into gift giving, I spend my money & my time on the gift itself, not the wrapping job.
If you really want to go the extra mile, wrap it in cellophane and tie it with a bow? Although that’s going against what was instructed and I personally hate when people do that! Although, in my experience on a no-children allowed invite to a shower people brought children…so at least wrapping in cellophane wouldn’t be as severe haha
Post # 47
Hmm, I’ve been to a few baby showers and have never been asked to do this. I don’t think it’s rude necessarily, but opening the gifts is half the fun and it’s the best way to acknowledge and thank each person for the gift.
Post # 48
From my perspective, I would love banning wrapping paper just to eliminate the waster generated. I would probably do something clever with a baby blanket and sone ribbon so it still looked like a present.
Post # 49
I dread the unwrapping portion of the shower as I find it INCREDIBLY boring. So I wouldn’t mind this request and it does feel trendy (same for bring a book instead of a card).
ETA: I totally disagree that the entire point of the shower is opening presents. I go to see the mom to be and friends & family, eat together and talk/gossip.
Post # 50
dispup: This is such a petty thing to get wound up about. Whatever the reason, it shouldn’t be that big a deal if the hostess requests presents not be wrapped.
I’ve seen a lot of registries that specifically request that gifts shouldn’t be wrapped to help reduce waste and preserve our environment.
freckles071611: A baby shower is about showering the soon-to-be-mama with gifts. Not sure why you’re so wound up about this either.
Post # 51
Who cares? if you don’t like it then don’t go. I don’t think it’s worth getting upset about.
Post # 52
LGenz: “it does feel trendy (same for bring a book instead of a card).” — Yeah, except it’s saving you $5-10 instead of costing an extra $10-15.
Post # 53
Daisy_Mae: aw I love giving books and writing something inside. I always think about them seeing what I wrote when they read it.
Post # 54
LGenz: I know, I almost always include books when I’m giving kids presents anyway, but it feels off when someone says “instead of that, bring this!” Truth be told, I don’t always include a card. I’m not sentimental and they just get thrown away so sometimes I skip it. So I guess it makes me feel bad to see “bring a book instead of a card” when there’s a chance I wasn’t going to bring a card. And the fact that I was already going to bring a book doesn’t make me feel better. I’m excited to buy the present, I WAS excited to buy the book, but now I feel bad because I was going to skimp out on the card which is apparently so expected now that they can ask you to sub it out for something better…. I guess my thinking is, you know I’m bringing stuff, and it’s stuff you asked for on your registry, so can’t you just let me pick the stuff?
Post # 55
dispup: Maybe she wants to go green. I’ve bought things off of other people’s baby registries and have them request no gift wrap on the site for that reason. Maybe you’re turned off because it was done via email? I don’t know…it doesn’t seem like a big deal to me since you open gifts at a shower, so everyone finds out what other people purchased anyway.
Post # 56
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Sounds like a great idea to me. I wrap gifts like a 4 year old and watching someone unwrap gifts is boring. I’d rather enjoy interacting with the host and other guests than staring at her open gifts like some sideshow attraction.
Post # 57
If it really takes two hours to unwrap gifts, then the whole thing has probably gotten out of hand and over the top. Showers are supposed to be intimate, low key gatherings thrown for ones closest friends and family. The presents are supposed to be inexpensive and practical. The whole point of a shower is to “shower” the couple with gifts, not necessarily to “unwrap” them. Gift wrapping is just a custom, not a rule of etiquette.
The green argument is the much better one, but it should be phrased as an option, not a mandate. The guest of honor should still graciously accept any gift.
Post # 58
I personally have been to 2 “unwrapped” showers and LOVE THEM. I understand why people have showers and it tradition, But I personally get bored watching people open a toaster or a bunch of onesies.
Post # 59
Ive been at a shower similar to this but it was asked to be wrapped in clear wrap instead of wrapping paper. There were a few people that did the wrapping paper and the mom to be still went through each gift she just didn’t physically “open” the plastic wrap. She thank each person as she was handed their gift and gladly opened the ones that were wrapped. With that said it was a hugggggggge shower with probably easily 80 people (So big there was carving stations and mimosas with a full bunch served like a wedding with assigned seating) and it would have taken hours for her to unwrap each thing if it was gift wrapped. It was nice to see her acknowledge each gift but after getting there I was thankful we didn’t have to sit and watch her open gifts for 5 hours.
Post # 60
Sheryl0013: “ it was asked to be wrapped in clear wrap instead of wrapping paper.” — See, now this I think is crazy. Because now, instead of making things easier on the gift-giver and better for the environment, they’re making it harder and worse (or harder and equal). Where the f^c% do you get clear wrapping paper? You know they don’t mean Saran Wrap, they mean the stiff kind that gift baskets are wrapped up with. Nobody has that shit laying around their home! That’s a pain in the ass and I wouldn’t do it. The cost to the gifter (in money, time, and energy) outweighs the benefit to the giftee.