baby shower specifics

posted 1 year ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If she is due 14th Aug, when should the baby shower be? (shes not sure either)

– You can do it anytime but typically it is done 28 weeks – 34 weeks. Of course, you can do it before or after. My friend is doing hers at 38 weeks but you run the risk that baby could be born by then. I would find weekends that work in the above time frame and narrow it down that way. 

How many weeks notice do I send out invitations?

– since it’ll be summer, I would do 6 weeks as I find spring/summer weekends tend to book up quickly. 

Do I set up my budget/numbers before sharing with her so I don’t get overwhelmed if she over expects my specifics?

– Yes I probably would. 

How many people normally are invited to baby showers?

– This depends on the type of party you’re having, where you’re having it, and who your sister wants. It can really vary. I think my sister has invited 30 and she is keeping it very small. 

ETA: And do I just ask her to set up a registry so I can put it on the invitations?

– Yes. She may likely already have one going.

Is there anything else I should consider? A theme?

– You can do a theme if you want or colours. I believe my sister is doing something like floral themed with woodland animals. My only request was flowers because I love flowers. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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going2bmrsc :  you can do it anywhere. My sister is using the party room at her condo. I know 30 seems large but I have like 35 first cousins on my dad’s side alone so 30 in total is really small to my family. 

I actually haven’t seen an invite with a RSVP date (so weird!) but maybe 2 weeks before so you can follow up with the stragglers. 

Also, not sure if this is common in Australia, but everyone I know sends evites for baby showers. Save money and RSVPs are easy to track. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I just hosted a large baby shower (60 people!) for my best friend. She is expecting early May so we just had it 2 weeks ago so about the the 30-31 week mark. Agree general timing is around the 7 months is safe even with possible early delivery. 

Send out invitations 4-6 weeks in advance. 6-8 weeks even if people are traveling from afar. We had family fly in from other states. Even had hotels booked for out of town people. It was a bit overwhelming to do on my own so thank goodness her mom and cousin helped big time. Held at her cousins house with ample backyard space. I would say average size baby showers are 20-30 people. Mine was 25 and easily held in a home and not a venue. There are set up and breakdown limitations (usually day of) with venues and we needed the day before to set up tables and decorations and plenty of days afterwards for taking down everything (mind you we had 8 guest tables rented, the whole nine yards.

As for theme, a surprise is sweet. If your sister is low key and would appreciate whatever you do, picking one yourself is fine but I chose mine and my friend chose hers. Probably something worth asking your sister.

Definitely work out a budget. They can be expensive for just a little decor and the food! Don’t take on more than you can handle! I’m still paying off my credit card and I just paid for decor food, themed goods for favors, game prizes and overall decor. Woodland animals theme. SO cute!

Yes to RSVP date so you can order all your goods by vendor deadlines if they depend on head count. I needed 2 weeks before party date to make sure I get my last minute goods. 

Oh and I would recommend ba timeline of events if you’re doing games etc. 

We had several group games and other “guess this” or “suggest that” games around so people don’t get bored before things get started and between meal time and gifts. Oh and have plenty of appetizers and/or grazing table because hungry guests are no fun!

This was my first time hosting such a big event. It was a lot of work but very rewarding. I hope this helps. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

Six weeks sounds good for invites, and I would make the RSVP a week out – so they have 5 weeks.

Nearly all the showers I’ve been to are in someones home and have about 10-20 people, that usually includes mums, sisters, cousins and aunties from his and her sides, as well as her close friends. 
I have attended one that was larger and in a venue.

If she has a registry I would add it but it’s not necessary if she doesn’t have one. None of the baby showers I have attended have been registered (also in Australia btw).

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

You should have the shower either the last week of June or the beginning of July. Unfortunately that’s a popular time for graduation parties and other events so I would send invitations out 8-10 weeks before so you have a decent turn out. As far as how many people goes, I’d say most people have between 20-75 guests. It all depends on the amount of best friends, cousins, aunts, etc the mom-to-be has, so I’d ask her for a list of people she’d want and if its too many you can ask her if she’s able to cut down the list at all. Definitely ask her to make a registry, and put it on the invitations. 

 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I’m due in September, my Mom has started working on my shower.

QUESTIONS:
If she is due 14th Aug, when should the baby shower be? (shes not sure either)

I’m having mine at 36 weeks, personally it’s a little later than I would like but it’s the only weekend the place we had in mind had avaliable. Most showers I’ve been to have been between 30-36 weeks. 

How many weeks notice do I send out invitations?

I would do 6 weeks, I feel like people’s schedules book up earlier and earlier these days so I think it’s nice to give a decent heads up to folks attending.

Do I set up my budget/numbers before sharing with her so I don’t get overwhelmed if she over expects my specifics?

Yes, I would. My Mom is asking me about venue (helped her find one close by) and guest list. everything else she’s doing herself. 

How many people normally are invited to baby showers?

I think my invite list will be similar to my bridal shower, expecting to invite around 50 and have 35 or so attend (just a guess). 

ETA: And do I just ask her to set up a registry so I can put it on the invitations?

Definitely have her do a registry! When I go to showers I want to get something I know the couple wants/needs. Plus there’s so much baby stuff out there I want them to do the research. I think if she doesn’t do a registry she will end up with a ton of clothes which is nice but she really needs diapers, bottles, baby gear, etc. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m currently 38 weeks. 🙂

 

QUESTIONS:
If she is due 14th Aug, when should the baby shower be? (shes not sure either)

I had one shower at 34 weeks which seemed perfect.  I had my second shower at 37 weeks which seemed late.  I was uncomfortable, and it forced me to wait longer than I would have liked to buy everything I needed for baby.  So, I would say between 32-36 weeks is great.

 

How many weeks notice do I send out invitations?

In my area, 4 weeks is common.  But like others have said, it’s summer, so I think you’d be good with the 6 weeks other have said.

 

Do I set up my budget/numbers before sharing with her so I don’t get overwhelmed if she over expects my specifics?

Yes, I would just chat with her about venues, and size, so you’re both on the same page.

 

How many people normally are invited to baby showers?

I think about 20 were invited to mine, and about 12 were able to make it.  We also had a smaller wedding though, so I was happy with the smaller size.  It allowed me to really visit with everyone there.

 

ETA: And do I just ask her to set up a registry so I can put it on the invitations?

Yes!!  Even with a registry, a lot of people just do their own thing, but I really appreciated all the practical stuff we got from our registry.  It really cuts down on the stuff you need to buy yourself.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Lots of good advise above! Just wanted to point out that you can keep costs down by making the bridal shower potluck style, and enlisting help from immediate family members. (Your mom, aunts, first cousins, etc) My SIL hosted my bridal shower at her house. There were about 30 people there. She handled decorations and the theme, but all food was provided by other family members. (Aka Aunt lucy brought potato salad) 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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going2bmrsc :  Every baby shower I’ve been to or seen on social media has been hosted at a persons home.  I’ve also never been to one with a full meal – more a tapas or high tea scenario.  So biscuits, sandwich triangles, grazing platters, sausage rolls etc.  This will keep prices down. 

E-invites are totally fine if you don’t want to spend the cash on invitations. 

I think they are typically 10 – 30 people in size.  

I’ve never seen registry information on an invite – I would think this would be frowned on but not sure since it is a specific gift giving event.  

Themes are cute, but try to keep it fairly wide so you don’t tear your hair out trying to find a specific coloured balloon or something. 

Etsy is your friend! 

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