- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL
I just found out my older sister is having a little girl!! I’m beyond excited! This is the first baby for our family 🙂
Anyway, I had surgery yesterday and my sister came over today to make sure I was doing well and I asked her what she’s like to do for her shower. She told me that her SIL has already “laid claim” to throwing the shower.
I was a little upset because her SIL got to throw her a bridal shower because she “laid claim” before me, so it seems a bit unfair in that aspect. Typically, the Maid/Matron of Honor (who was me) is supposed to do it, but she wouldn’t take no for an answer and I backed down.
I should also say my sister’s bridal shower was a disaster because her SIL was not supposed to have her little boys there (it was girls only) and they ran around screaming and throwing food and tantrums the whole time)
My mother passed away 9 years ago, so the task of hosting her baby shower should be left to myself and our eldest sister.
SIL is also really scatter-brained when it comes to party-planning. I love the girl a lot, I consider her family. She has a heart of gold and I know she is doing things out of love…… but she will not have anything prepared until the last possible second, and even then, everything is half-assed (excuse my language). I’m saying this from experience. Every party and holiday that was hosted by her has been a disaster in the sense that there was either no food, or running 5 hours late. Just this past Christmas, she insisted she get to host it, and my sister called me the night before Christmas and begged me to make enough baked ziti to serve 15 people, because all her SIL was preparing was crock pot meatballs (seriously??!!)
I don’t want to make her feel bad and tell her that she can’t host the baby shower because I want to do it, but I’d like to include her. I’m just REALLY afraid that things she’s assigned to do won’t get done and it will be a disaster.
My eldest sister has offered to call her and tell her she can’t host it, but she can be slightly…abrasive. I don’t want SIL’s feelings to get hurt, and honestly, its her brother’s first child too so she has every right to be included.
Do I sound like I’m overanalyzing this? The most important thing is that I want my sister to be happy, and have everything run smoothly without incident (or close to it lol)