(Closed) Baby Shower/Sprinkle for Second Baby

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Newbee

Traditionally, a shower is to celebrate and welcome the soon to be mother, not to celebrate the baby.

As you can see from the responses, some people don’t mind second showers or sprinkles and others think they are tacky. It depends on your circle. Your in laws have given you a very clear idea of where they, and likely where their extended family and friends, fall. 

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think people always find a way to be butthurt about something. As long as there’s no expectation of gifts let your friend help celebrate your baby.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I would have no problem with it and certainly would want to help out a friend or relative with a new baby, 5 years is a long time and many items may not even meet current safety standards after that amount of time, plus as you said many people throw out or donate items after baby is older. I don’t see why anyone would be so offended at the idea. Nobody seems to have an issue giving/receiving wedding shower gifts when they already have a home full of stuff… 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldn’t care if someone had a shower for their second, especially if it was a 5 year gap! If you’re not wanting gifts, I would just plan a party after baby is born, “sip and see” like a little meet and greet. That’s what we plan for our second (due soon!) We are just inviting people over for a casual dinner and hangout. Still exciting and focuses around the new baby, but not as formal with invites or games or decorations 

Post # 22
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Helper bee

I’m personally not a fan of the idea, but I think a sip&see after the baby is born is a great alternative!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m firmly in the every baby is a cause for celebration camp I would be happy to attend and would likely bring a small gift. Congrats by the way 😊

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

In my area and circle, we enjoy loving on and giving presents to moms/babies and brides & grooms to be. We give a full shower for every baby – and if the moms don’t need much, they ask the hostess to do a book shower (where guests are asked to bring books to read to baby) or they only register for the few things they need. I’ve also seen diaper showers where everyone is just asked to help the new parents stock up on diapers. 

We see it as a chance to get together, have a little party, and give love and support to our friend or loved one. 

Until the bee, I’d never heard anyone accused of being gift grabby or tacky for letting someone else host a party to celebrate a life event in her honor. 

Congratulations to you and your family on your new sweetie!

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

carrolltobee :  I think having the “sprinkle” (or whatever you decide to call it) after the baby is born is the way to go here. Congrats!

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

In my circle, sprinkles are frowned upon and looked at as gift grabby, probably because many of my friends and family go all out for the first (and in my opinion, the only) baby shower.  For my friends and family that have had second (and third and fourth) babies, I always buy them a gift anyway.  I just don’t think you need the hoopla of a second shower.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would attend and bring a gift! It never occurred to me that having a shower for subsequent babies was considered a faux pas. Here we celebrate all babies! And also love any excuse to celebrate 😉

Post # 28
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Busy bee

i thought every baby had a baby shower no matter which # it was…. who cares, go for it because you arent someone to throw you one, someone is offering to throw you one. I think its great. 

Post # 29
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Sugar Beekeeper

Some Bees are misguided. If a group of close friends are inspired to throw a shower for a second baby, even traditional etiquette is OK with that. Showers are supposed to be low key, and gifts are supposed to be practical in any case.

A shower is, by definition, about gifts. 

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

carrolltobee :  It’s perfectly fine. It’s not like you’re asking for it or throwing it for yourself. 5 years is a large gap and of course you’ve discarded things and given them away. Enjoy the thoughtful gesture!

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