Post # 1
i would like to host a baby sprinkle for a close friend of mine. This will be her 3rd baby. They decided not to find out the gender of this baby, which they have found out for the first 2. Their kids are pretty close in age, so would it be against etiquette if I threw her a baby sprinkle? To make it easier on the parents, can I make it a gift card sprinkle so that I can surprise her with the shower and not have her make a gender neutral registry for things they may need?
Post # 2
Etiquette is OK if a very close and intimate group of friends is moved to throw something small and low key for a subsequent baby. No registry and no you cannot politely ask for money or gift cards.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
Is a baby sprinkle a low-key shower? Non-US bee here.
Post # 4
You are fine to host a sprinkle. Keep it to a small group.
Post # 5
Keep it to a small group, no registry. Alternatively, maybe you could host a spa day where you can all go and get pampered.
Post # 6
A gift card sprinkle? Why does it need to have a different name to a shower?
A shower for a 3rd baby isn’t any cuter or less gift grabby by calling it a ‘sprinkle’.
Post # 7
No registry. This is baby number three, you technically dont have a shower after baby #1 (unless they’re different sexes). Anywho, you should not ask for gifts or gift cards, thats inappropriate for a third baby. I would host a sip-n-see after the baby is born to celebrate the birth of this new babe!
Post # 8
I think it’s weird to request people to bring gift cards. That would rub me the wrong way, because it almost sounds like we’re having a party, in which I have to contribute cash to attend.
My understanding of sprinkles was that there is no registry and guests can choose to bring a small gift of their choice, if they want. I didn’t think gifts were mantatory for a sprinkle like they are for a shower. (you can say gifts arent necessary at a shower, but it’s blatantly a gift giving event, so they kind of are).
Post # 9
I’d skip it, honestly. For the third baby, the thrill is gone for everyone except for the parents. People who are very close to the family will send a gift to welcome the child without being prompted.
Post # 10
Julius524 : Not a fan of “sprinkles”. Not a fan of showers that specify gift cards. Really judging the idea of a 3rd-baby sprinkle asking for gift cards. Especially since the kids are close in age. What could they possibly need so desperately that their friends and family should pay for it? If people want to give a celebratory gift, they will. You sound like a sweet, generous person and I recommend that you concentrate on giving whatever you feel comfortable giving rather than trying to organize other people’s giving. In other words, spend the money that you would have spent on this sprinkle, on something for the baby/family instead and let others manage when, how, and what they give.
Post # 11
We have done diaper showers for all of my friends who have second/third kids. Very intimate, small group of friends that have all grown up together. These are really just an excuse to get together because we all have children and don’t get to see each other often! We usually just meet at a restaurant for brunch and everyone brings diapers and wipes for the expectant mom.
Post # 12
I think more of a luncheon or “diaper shower” would be appropriate. As others have said, with 2 other kids close in age, what else could the couple need? And specifying gift cards seems a bit gift grabby.
A small get-together with close friends where the emphasis is just on spending time together and enjoying each other’s company sounds great. People may still bring gifts but I wouldn’t label it as a shower or sprinkle, where the emphasis is on gift giving.
Post # 13
zzar45 : bc she doesn’t need all the big things, she’s going to need the smaller things. Not a ton of stuff but some. I’m just trying to help her out and celebrate her baby.
Post # 14
The gift card idea was just so I could surprise her with the get together by not asking “hey, make a list of things you may need”.
Going off everyone’s responses I guess I’ll skip anything and maybe just do a small friend gathering/day of pampering.