- 11 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
These are the moments I live for… 🙂
A couple weeks ago, as some of you might recall from an earlier post, I tried to broach the “time line” idea with my BF. He kind of freaked out and didn’t want to talk about it and said maybe in 3-5 years he would be ready to get engaged. I was really angry, etc. After that, I broached the subject gently a couple of other times. I told him that, since I only have a contract to work remotely (I’m living in his country with him and working for my company in the US remotely) for a year, if my company wants me to come back at the end of the year, I will do so if I don’t have a formal commitment to him. I told him we could go back to long distance or break up at that time if he did not feel ready for more of a commitment. He balked about not wanting to do LD again and said he didn’t want me to leave…….sooo…fast forward like two weeks…
I think he’s had some time to mull the idea over, because a couple things he’s done in the past few days have been making me wonder if he’s starting to be more receptive to the idea of getting engaged sooner rather than later. I don’t want to get my hopes up.
He got his quarterly bonus from work and when I asked him what he was going to do with it, he pointed to his ring finger and said “ring fund!”. It’s an inside joke – I always ask him if he’s saving a “ring fund” and he’d never heard of such a thing before…cultural difference I guess. He also is totally against the idea of the girl picking out the ring. Somehow, it came up, and I said that I was ok with not picking it up but shouldn’t a guy at least have a few ideas of what a girl likes? He started asking me about my brother’s relationship with his wife and how long they dated and lived together before getting married (random)…
And then yesterday he was on the computer and he’s like “I’m going to look up a video you will like!” and a couple minutes later he called me over to the computer. It was a tutorial video on “How to buy an engagement ring”. It was really funny actually. We watched it together…all 5 minutes of it. And then (on his own accord) he opened up the Tiffany’s web page and went to the engagement section and was like….”What do you like, platinum? Princess cut?” Although he kind of freaked out with the prices…and then he’s like “Isn’t there another ring store you like?” and I told him and he was about to Google it and then he said something like “alright, this is going a little too far”. I was all happy after and he was like “I knew you would like that…”
I don’t know if he was just totally joking around and being stupid or if this is some SMALL TEENY TINY indication he might be started to think a little bit more about the idea of engagement in the next year or so..? Don’t want to get my hopes up. But, it’s a baby step anyway 🙂