Post # 1
I know there may be a thread out there somewhere about this but i wanted to post anyways….To those who have kids already or even those who dont but wanna chime in 🙂
what would you consider are the very very basic bare necessities to have for a baby?
Darling Husband and I aren’t in the best financial state right now so I need to budget for only the baby must-haves to save money….i’m already planning to (hopefully) cloth diaper and breastfeed to try and save money….but for example, i dont want to get a co-sleeper and a crib at the same time if i can get away with having LO sleep in our room in a co-sleeper for the first 4-6 months while we save for a crib. i’m also thinking of just buying onsies and socks for the first few months (is this ok?) instead of going crazy with clothes that a)LO will probly grow out of too fast and b) we’ll probly get from fam and friends anyhow….
btw, we will be registering for stuff but i dont wanna feel obligated to buy things we dont get at our shower if its something we really won’t need….
oh and are changing tables / pads an absolute necessity? couldn’t i just change baby on our bed or blanket on floor? (i’m a FTM so dont harm me if thats a bad idea…)
Post # 3
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My mom used to always say the #1 thing you need is a good blanket– you can lay it on the floor for naps, diaper changes, play time, whatever. And the best part is– the baby can’t roll off!
You definitely don’t need a changing table. A crib also isn’t a necessity– a pack-n-play is great because they’re so portable and they can double as a crib assuming you don’t mind bending down/lifting as the little one grows.
As for clothes– I STRONGLY recommend places like craigslist and such, also look into your local chruch to see if they have a clothing swap or even an “open closet”. There really is no need to buy much clothes new, like you said– they grow out of them so fast!
Post # 4
Have you looked into buying some stuff used? I always see a ton of baby stuff on Craigslist (think bags of clothing for $5, cribs/strollers/etc.. for under $50, accessories and toys for $10, etc…). Babies grow out of things so quickly, that it’s not hard at all to find gently used baby items for a dirt cheap price in most areas.
I think the very basic necessities are:
- a safe place for the baby to sleep (if you’re low on cash, you might just invest in a crib, since you’ll get the longest use out of it)
- food/feeding devices (if you’ll be breastfeeding and will be home all the time, you might hold off on buying a pump/bottles until you actually need them)
- some clothes (personally, I liked sleep n’ plays the best for newborns because they’re an all-in-one outfit – shirt, pants, and socks)
- diapers (you might find the biggest savings if you purchase used cloth diapers, since building up a stock from scratch can be pricey)
- some accessories such as burp cloths, a few blankets, a couple crib sheets, a changing pad (this could be a folding one from your diaper bag, it doesn’t have to be a big one), a couple pacifiers, and some baby toiletries/care items (wash, lotion, clippers, hairbrush, and thermometer)
Post # 5
@juliette.eliza: never thought to look at craigslist…definitely a good idea! i did think i’d hit up my local goodwill though so thats definitely on my list…thanks for the info!
@Mrs. Spring: i think we are going to have to look at used things first to save money…tho i heard that things such as carseats shouldn’t be bought used?? also, what are sleep n’ plays – are they like footie pjs? used cloth diapers is a good idea…i’ll put that on my list too…thanks!
Post # 6
Babies don’t really NEED that much. As long as they have season appropriate clothes, a safe place to sleep, somehow to eat and diapers, you are set. I’m not a mom, but friend who are used a pack and play a lot, it works as a bed, some have changing table things on top, it isn’t huge and heavy, so it works instead of a crib. And a baby doesnt need lots of fancy clothes, onesies and socks should be fine for a good while. Oh and a car seat. Most hospitals wont let you leave without one. There was a thread about car seats recently on the baby board, and a couple of bees who could help you with cheap bit safe kinds. Breastfeeding is the way to go, if you can. See if your hospital offers a lactation consultant or classes on it. And other than a car seat or a crib that no longer meets safety requirements, get used stuff! Your baby won’t care and it is way ucheaper.
Post # 7
@chasesgirl: i agree thank you! its hard sometimes walking into baby sections at the stores and seeing all the different kinds of things out there and thinking i really need all this? ugh..lol so i’m trying to think inexpensively while still getting what i will absolutely need…
Post # 8
Am I the only one who had to look up FTM? It generally means female-to-male (as in transgender), so I was sooooooooooooooooo confused.
Also, I agree on getting things secondhand.
Post # 9
@vorpalette: haha! sorry bout that…first time mom … 🙂
Post # 10
@MamaHusky3: Right, sleep n’ plays are footie pajamas. You’ll want to buy a new carseat, but pretty much everything else you can buy used, as long as you follow current safety practices and look everything over to make sure it’s in good working order (nothing is loose, no parts are missing, etc…).
There’s a book you might be able to check out from the library called Baby Bargains. It has a lot of great information on what is truely necessary and what is optional. It also has some great information on brands, places to buy, safety issues, etc…
Post # 11
Clothing wise, it depends on when the baby’s due. You’re heading into winter right now, so onesies won’t take you that far, but sleepers will. You’ll also have to have some kinds of heavier items for when you go outside (for Dr. appts.,shopping,visiting) and plenty of blankets.
A crib is a better use of your money, I think, and you’ll need some kind of dresser to store everything (many come with changing pads for the top,so double duty). Some kind of stroller, a car seat, and a place for them to sleep are pretty much the basics needed from the beginning, and the rest you can get as needed.
Post # 12
I totally hear you – we weren’t in the best place financially either and I was freaking out about affording all the baby “stuff” (our friends/family are amazing and provided 99.9% of what we needed through gifts).
anyway…. you need car seat/stroller, a bassinet/co-sleeper, diapers and wipes, bath stuff, clothes and blankets. And for you, nursing bras, cream, pads. I would recommend getting something like a swing – I didn’t think it was necessary before he was born but ohmahgawd, it sure is freaking helpful!
One thing I caution is your LO might be too small at first for cloth diapers and it might be cheaper to just buy a box of newborned size (walmart sells a box of 88 for 30$) rather than get the newborn sized cloth that they’ll outgrow in the first month.
When is your LO due for the clothes? Your friends/family will probably take care of the clothes and blankets for you, even a couple packs of diapers too. Our LO wears sleepers in the house since we like it cool and onesies when he’s out, and that’s all he needs right now.
For a changing table we’re using our dining room table (which we NEVER use to eat at) and we just put a thick towel down and wash accordingly. You can change your LO anywhere, really 🙂
Post # 13
@Mrs. Spring: thank you. i’ll def check for that book…
@ItWasntMe: i’m due jan 22nd so thanks to all your suggestions i most likely will look into sleepers and extra blankets now…and thanks for the links!
@bebefly: exactly! as for the newborn size cloth diapers, i was thinking the same, luckily a few of my friends have just had babies within the last year or less, and they’ve offered some newborn size disposables that they have left over….i think we are going to be blessed with gifts from family and friends too just don’t want to expect too much…
Post # 14
Also, put the word out that you will happily accept hand-me-downs from friends and family.