(Closed) Baby talk in your 20’s?

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Fiance and I haven’t talked specifically about when we’ll TTC.  At our wedding, we’ll both be 29, and he’ll turn 30 a month after the wedding.  However, we’ve never lived together yet (due to job situations), and I think we’d like at least a year to ourselves to enjoy being with each other before bringing a baby into the mix.

That being said, I can’t be on the pill (messes with my blood pressure), and we’re using condoms / film spermicide and charting now to avoid pregnancy.  If we do conceive earlier (like on the honeymoon if we get too crazy), I think we’ll be okay.  And then our child will be close in age to his/her cousins.  (I have 2 sisters – 1 sisters with a 3.5 year old and a 15 month old, and the other sister with a 11 month old.)

Post # 48
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

We got married when I was 20 and dh 25 and we had a good 5 years together before any babies.  We have just had our first little boy a few months ago and I’m now 25.  We have always wanted lots of babies, maybe 5 if God is good to us so I always planned to start in my mid 20’s so it worked out perfectly.  I don’t want huge gaps between them either, just enough time to get myself back to good health and fitness again befor ethe next one.  I think large families are so much fun and it is lovely to have lots of brothers and sisters around your own age so this is our reaosning.  Now that we have our little boy our lives are so much more full and we feel our plan is definetly the right track for us.  For us there is nothing more important than family and homelife.  We will still travel and do all the things we wanted, just with our babies in tow!  We ar elooking forward to lots of camping when they are a little older 😀  I’m so excited what the future has to bring if this is how happy we are now.  Goodluck xxx

Post # 49
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1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m 24 and my husband is 26. I didn’t think I’d want kids til I was 28 or 29 BUT after the wedding baby fever set in full force and now we’re thinking we will try to get pregnant late next year. I want to be a youngish mom.

Post # 50
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We will be 24 and 25 when we get married and plan on starting a family right away. We are lucky enough to be financially secure and have always wanted to be younger parents. We have had plenty of “us” time and are so ready. I’m so excited <3

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am 26 and my boyfriend is 39. We will be TTC right after marriage because I’ve basically felt ready for a few years now, and he does not want to be a really old dad. We are not engaged yet but probably within the next few weeks / months. I’m so excited to be TTC, once I’m engaged I know it will be hard to wait until after the wedding…….but being married first is really important to me. And I kinda want to be able to drink at my wedding 😉

Post # 52
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Busy bee

SO and I have randomly talked about what we would do about a situation with kids or names but nothing too serious. However, I believe that it will happen when it does. I know we’ve discussed that marital sex with not include condoms.

Post # 53
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re getting married in October of 2012 but we aren’t going to be TTC until at least 1 1/2 years after our wedding. We want a little time for ourselves before we get into the baby making business. I’ll be 24 and he’ll be 26 by the time we get married and I really don’t see myself getting pregnant/having a baby until I’m 26. We’re using the pill and condoms but I’m hoping to be off the pill by middle of 2013. 

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am 23 and should be married before 24 or right after that. We plan to start trying fairly soon after that. This is because having children much into your thirties is dangerous for mother and child and sky rockets your chances of many complications as well as autism and other exceptionalities. We want to have three children, and we don’t want them to be super close in age as that is also poses a danger to the children. So given those very real factors, we realize waiting much longer honestly isn’t wise if you want healthy children.

Post # 55
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance is going to be 33 by the time we’re married this year, and I’m going to be 25. Initially, we were going to wait 4 years, but we’re going to try in 2 years (2014). 2 years for traveling, living the married life, and then we’ll start trying because both sets of parents are old and have been waiting for grandchildren for forever! I wouldnt want them to leave without seeing one first.

Post # 56
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737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We will likely be married by the time I am 25 and he is 28. We will not be TTC until I am 28/29 and he is 31/32. Why? Because A) I have career goals I’d like to achieve before becoming a full time mother and B) We want to fully enjoy just “being us two” before we expand into a family 🙂

Post # 57
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572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I will be 25 when I marry. My Fiance and I definitely want children. I am in no rush but would like to have all my children before age 35- after that I am done (at least thats my thinking right now- we will see how it goes). I am thinking 2 or 3 kids would be good for us. Fiance wishes I was already pregnant and we are not even married yet! He really wants a baby. I know he is deinitely going to want to have one within a year or so afer we get married, which is okay with me.

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am 23. Fiance is 22 and I am ready but he is not. I am the sole source of income and I like working – he lost his job not too long ago and he is warming up to the idea of being a stay-at-home dad so I’m hoping he will come around soon. I have had baby fever like crazy for two years now….

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My Fiance and I had a serious talk about this topic this past weekend. By the time we get married this year, Fiance will be 28 and I will be 26. We both agreed that we would give ourselves at least 3 years of enjoying our marriage baby-free. However, Fiance is starting to feel his age and worries he will be an older parent. I know this feeling stems from that fact that his parents had him during their late 30s and ended as a single child. We agreed to wait two years til we start trying.

Post # 60
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m 23 and he’s 24. We’ll be just shy of 25 and 26. We’ve discussed this issue quite a lot lately. Both of us would ideally like to give adult only married life a go for a year or two before kids. However we both LOVE kids. We have several nieces, nephews, goddaughters, godsons, friends with kids, etc. Everyday that urge to have children becomes a little stronger and I honestly don’t know if we’ll actually make it a full 1/2 years. Plus I can’t physically take any form of oral contraceptive(nor do I personally want to) and I can’t do any sort of shot, patch, IUD, etc. so our only option is condoms and those are just so distasteful. But if it happens sooner rather than later neither one of us would be stressed or worried. We aren’t rich by any means but we do well enough to potentially provide for another life. For us, waiting is less about the money and more about getting that one on one time as husband and wife.

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@SimplyMrsC: 
My Fiance is baby crazy as well. It’s cute but weird. Obviously plenty of guys want children I’m just not use to them being as vocal about it as my Fiance is. There are plenty of times we are out and he’ll turn my attention toward a kid and say something like, “She is a doll” or “I’d like to do things like that with my son if we ever have one. “

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