(Closed) Baby talks

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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2144 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m going through the same thing. I just keep reminding myself that my husband is right and I don’t think it’s fair to bring a child into this world until we’re a little better off. I know financially things will never be perfect, but with school and stuff, it’s not quite right, though if he walked into our bedroom right now and told me we’re gonna make a baby RIGHT NOW, I so would… It’s really, really hard. Harder than when I was waiting to get engaged. I think about wanting a baby every day, close to all day, and there is just this internal drive pushing me, but we just have to wait! It’s not easy, but I know it will be better in the long run.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had the opposite. My hubby wanted babies years ago but all I wanted was to be married first then it was game on. Once we got married we had more of the whatever happens, happens attitude and wow did it happen. Exactly 2 weeks after getting married.

His biggest thing was he didn’t really believe that people had to get married and if it wasn’t for me, he would never marry. I never forced him to marry me so I must clear that but he made the decision one day that it’s what he wanted to do. Because of this he felt we could have babies at anytime.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

My husband has always said that you are never ready for a baby.  No matter how prepared you think you will be or how uncomplicated you think your life will be, you still won’t be prepared for the change that a baby makes in your home, life, and relationship.  I think a lot of men have milestones they set for themselves.  Is there any reason to wait two years?  Does he want to travel?  Finish school?  Waiting without purpose is just…well kind of pointless.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We struggled with that too, and I was terrified that hubby would never come around. But then some of our friends started having babies and he got to see that it is a normal part of marriage and not so scary. Now he’s totally on board! Just give him some time, and see if you can sneak in some exposure to other people’s babies. Maybe offer to babysit with hubs so he can see what babies are really like. 

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