Post # 1
I am so worn out. My little girl is almost a month old (wow!) and she never stops eating. We are exclusively breastfeeding. The only time I can get her off my boob is when she’s sleeping or when I put her in a swing or give her to my husband. She usually stands this for about 5 minutes, then starts screaming her head off for me. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t even hold her without her screaming for milk. I am so frustrated!!
She is gaining weight and pooping and peeing like a champ, so she is definitely getting enough milk. I don’t want to stop, but I just feel like I can’t live like this!
Post # 3
Is she emptying both sides each feeding? Has it always been this way or is this new? Babies go through growth spurts a lot at the beginning, but they eventually work themselves onto a schedule just like bottle fed babies do.
Are you eating any foods that might not be agreeing with her, so she’s going too often or giving her gas?
I remember those times vividly, and had only one friend who was also BF’g who had to talk me through it. Mine was eating every 20 minutes, and I was crying a lot wondering what I was doing wrong. Turns out I was doing nothing wrong, but I did have to encourage a full feeding each time so she would eventually need to eat less often.
I know its frustrating, but hang in there if you can. This is really the hardest time to get through.
Post # 4
If she’s switching sides a lot, she could be getting a lot of watery “fore milk,” which has a lot less fat than the “hind milk” and is less satisfying. I would experiment with encouraging her to fully empty one side before switching her to the other side. (So if you normally switch sides often, try to keep putting her the same side several times in a row, THEN switch.) If she’s getting more of the high-fat milk, she might stay full longer.
Otherwise, this is totally normal! Nature designed small babies to nurse almost all the time, so she is doing exactly what she’s supposed to do. Have you tried a sling? It might be less frustrating if she can nurse while in the sling, because you can move around more freely. Have you tried nursing her lying down? If you can get that working, you could read a good book while she nurses and you might feel less bothered. What you’re feeling is also totally normal — try to remember that even though it feels overwhelming now, she will be this little for a very short time.
Post # 5
Thanks, ladies. This started about two weeks ago. Before that she was nursing every 1 1/2 – 3hours and was calm in between feedings.
I’m pretty good about making sure she empties one breast before moving to another. She usually falls asleep on one breast after eating, so I burp her to wake her, then offer the other breast. Sometimes she’ll eat from that breast, sometimes she’ll decline. I’m also getting to the point where I can recognize when my breasts are full by how they feel.
Her bowel movements have decreased over the past week, so I think she’s settling down in that area. She’s really not gassy or fussy, so I don’t think anything is bothering her foodwise. Other than the eating frequency she is a great baby. Very calm and happy.
I’m wondering if I should purchase a moby wrap. I have the baby Bjorn, but she doesn’t seem too comfortable in it and doesn’t want to stay in it.
My Darling Husband and I have tried giving her pacifiers, but she won’t take them. She is not at all interested!
I’m trying to hang in until at least 8 weeks. I’ve read that there is some sort of turning point around that time and many women report it gets easier. I’m also working on getting a breast pump through insurance so my Darling Husband can offer some bottles and I can get a break.
I just had no idea how hard this is. Everything I’ve read says to offer the breast at any indication she wants it. Even if it’s for comfort only.
Post # 6
I don’t have any advise as I am not a mom, but I just wanted to say I hope things start getting easier for you 🙂
Post # 7
@mrsmjm: Hang in there! My (now 4 month old) baby wanted to feed constantly all the time in the beginning too! I would literally just sit in the same spots for hours. She would eat, fall asleep and then wake up anytime I moved.
I have a moby wrap and that was my lifesaver. I used it every day. That was the only way my baby slept and gave my boobs a much needed rest. It took me a while to figure out how to wrap iy (it’s looooong) but once I did it was a breeze. Also freed me up to get up and do stuff. The motion would put her to sleep.
It did get easier around the 2 month mark. Now he has a routine where he eats about every 3 hours. There’s light at the end of the tunnel!
Also maybe try a different shaped pacifier. Keep offering it, she may like it one day. I found with my baby he’ll like something one week and not the next (and vice versa). He prefers one pacifer to another one we have.
Post # 8
I never had a Moby wrap but my husband and I both had our own Maya wraps and they were great (though I don’t think we had them when baby was very small, we might have started using them around 3-4 months. They don’t have padding so they’re awesome for bigger babies but they might seem too flimsy for a little baby.)
Post # 9
My DS lived on me for the first month and half of his life. He was constantly eating or wanting to stay latched on. It was exhausting! I would invest in some sort of sling so that you can still move around and get things done around the house. I know it’s really hard, but hang in there! Soon he’ll discover there’s more to life than your boob:)
Post # 10
I agree with the previous posters. She may be going through a growth spurt, and she could also like the closeness Boyfriend or Best Friend involves. She’s still very young so she’s trying to figure this out too!
Post # 11
@mrsmjm: hang in there! I don’t have any additional advice to offer, but just wanted to encourage you! It’s not easy, but you are doing great. It will get better soon, I’m sure. I have a Moby wrap I’m not longer using if you’re looking to buy one. I’d sell it for $15 . Send me a PM if you’re interested.
Post # 12
DS wanted to constantly be on my boob for like the first 3 months of his life. He wasn’t always actively eating, though, half the time it was comfort nursing…he also wouldn’t take a pacifier. Can you tell the difference?
In any case, it’ll get better! I was convinced I would constantly be his pacifier, but then he found his hands and he started wanting to be latched a little less.
I got really frustrated a lot at first until I read this quote and it helped me emotionally handle it:
“You are not a pacifier; you are a Mom. You are the sun, the moon, the earth, you are liquid love, you are warmth, you are security, you are comfort in the very deepest aspect of the meaning of comfort…. but you are not a pacifier!” — Paula Yount
Post # 13
@mrsmjm: I went through the same thing, and I was also facing issues with his latch/tongue tie. I was in tears a lot. He would eat from 10 p.m.-3 a.m. every night, and then would be back up at 4 to eat again.
My little guy just turned two months and we turned a corner a few days ago. He is getting closer to a schedule (or at least routine). I don’t know if it’s the end of a lot of fast growing, or what, but I also just tried putting him on a “routine” (NOT a schedule, but a pattern). Before, I’d often let him nap while he was eating and nurse him to sleep. Now the routine is eat, play, sleep. He has to stay awake while he nurses (which sometimes requires a lot of singing, talking, tickling), then we play (anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour), and then he naps. It’s made a world of difference. I didn’t think it would matter if we did it in a different order (mostly eat, sleep, play), but it mattered to him. At night, we skip the play. However, we never resist feeding if he’s hungry (like, between play and sleep, if he gives cues, I still feed, but that’s rare).