(Closed) Baby wants to live on my boobs

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Is she emptying both sides each feeding? Has it always been this way or is this new? Babies go through growth spurts a lot at the beginning, but they eventually work themselves onto a schedule just like bottle fed babies do.

Are you eating any foods that might not be agreeing with her, so she’s going too often or giving her gas?

I remember those times vividly, and had only one friend who was also BF’g who had to talk me through it. Mine was eating every 20 minutes, and I was crying a lot wondering what I was doing wrong. Turns out I was doing nothing wrong, but I did have to encourage a full feeding each time so she would eventually need to eat less often.

I know its frustrating, but hang in there if you can. This is really the hardest time to get through.

Post # 4
2934 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@ItWasntMe:  +1

If she’s switching sides a lot, she could be getting a lot of watery “fore milk,” which has a lot less fat than the “hind milk” and is less satisfying. I would experiment with encouraging her to fully empty one side before switching her to the other side. (So if you normally switch sides often, try to keep putting her the same side several times in a row, THEN switch.) If she’s getting more of the high-fat milk, she might stay full longer.

Otherwise, this is totally normal! Nature designed small babies to nurse almost all the time, so she is doing exactly what she’s supposed to do. Have you tried a sling? It might be less frustrating if she can nurse while in the sling, because you can move around more freely. Have you tried nursing her lying down? If you can get that working, you could read a good book while she nurses and you might feel less bothered. What you’re feeling is also totally normal — try to remember that even though it feels overwhelming now, she will be this little for a very short time.

Post # 6
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have any advise as I am not a mom, but I just wanted to say I hope things start getting easier for you 🙂

Post # 7
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@mrsmjm:  Hang in there! My (now 4 month old) baby wanted to feed constantly all the time in the beginning too! I would literally just sit in the same spots for hours. She would eat, fall asleep and then wake up anytime I moved.

I have a moby wrap and that was my lifesaver. I used it every day. That was the only way my baby slept and gave my boobs a much needed rest. It took me a while to figure out how to wrap iy (it’s looooong) but once I did it was a breeze. Also freed me up to get up and do stuff. The motion would put her to sleep.

It did get easier around the 2 month mark. Now he has a routine where he eats about every 3 hours. There’s light at the end of the tunnel!

Also maybe try a different shaped pacifier. Keep offering it, she may like it one day. I found with my baby he’ll like something one week and not the next (and vice versa). He prefers one pacifer to another one we have.

Post # 8
2934 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I never had a Moby wrap but my husband and I both had our own Maya wraps and they were great (though I don’t think we had them when baby was very small, we might have started using them around 3-4 months. They don’t have padding so they’re awesome for bigger babies but they might seem too flimsy for a little baby.)

Post # 9
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My DS lived on me for the first month and half of his life. He was constantly eating or wanting to stay latched on. It was exhausting! I would invest in some sort of sling so that you can still move around and get things done around the house. I know it’s really hard, but hang in there! Soon he’ll discover there’s more to life than your boob:)

Post # 10
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with the previous posters.  She may be going through a growth spurt, and she could also like the closeness Boyfriend or Best Friend involves.  She’s still very young so she’s trying to figure this out too!

Post # 11
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mrsmjm:  hang in there! I don’t have any additional advice to offer, but just wanted to encourage you! It’s not easy, but you are doing great. It will get better soon, I’m sure. I have a Moby wrap I’m not longer using if you’re looking to buy one. I’d sell it for $15 . Send me a PM if you’re interested.

Post # 12
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

DS wanted to constantly be on my boob for like the first 3 months of his life. He wasn’t always actively eating, though, half the time it was comfort nursing…he also wouldn’t take a pacifier. Can you tell the difference? 

In any case, it’ll get better! I was convinced I would constantly be his pacifier, but then he found his hands and he started wanting to be latched a little less. 

I got really frustrated a lot at first until I read this quote and it helped me emotionally handle it: 

“You are not a pacifier; you are a Mom. You are the sun, the moon, the earth, you are liquid love, you are warmth, you are security, you are comfort in the very deepest aspect of the meaning of comfort…. but you are not a pacifier!” — Paula Yount


Post # 13
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mrsmjm:  I went through the same thing, and I was also facing issues with his latch/tongue tie. I was in tears a lot. He would eat from 10 p.m.-3 a.m. every night, and then would be back up at 4 to eat again. 

My little guy just turned two months and we turned a corner a few days ago. He is getting closer to a schedule (or at least routine). I don’t know if it’s the end of a lot of fast growing, or what, but I also just tried putting him on a “routine” (NOT a schedule, but a pattern). Before, I’d often let him nap while he was eating and nurse him to sleep. Now the routine is eat, play, sleep. He has to stay awake while he nurses (which sometimes requires a lot of singing, talking, tickling), then we play (anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour), and then he naps. It’s made a world of difference. I didn’t think it would matter if we did it in a different order (mostly eat, sleep, play), but it mattered to him. At night, we skip the play. However, we never resist feeding if he’s hungry (like, between play and sleep, if he gives cues, I still feed, but that’s rare). 

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