Post # 1
Hello mama’s on the bee 🙂
I am pregnant and read the book Attachment Parenting by Dr. Sears and I love this approach to parenting and want to implement it as much as possible. I love the idea of baby-wearing (wearing my baby in a sling most of the time) and the benefits that go along with it (proven better sleep, less colic, less crying, eats better, better bond/attachment etc etc). I was wondering if you mothers carry your baby all the time? Or if you put them down for naps?
I am a PT nanny who works for a mom who works from home, and she carried her baby in the sling during her mat. leave, and he is now 6 mos old and WON’T sleep unless one of us is holding him! It’s really hard, because there is another child, and she can’t get the full attention she needs from me, because I’m always holding baby, or I can’t eat a full lunch, cause of baby, I can’t go to the bathroom because I’m holding him!
How you mama’s handle this? Just in preparation for when my baby comes, as a nanny I don’t mind, I’m only there 5-6 hrs a day so it’s not bad. But I don’t want to make a baby that won’t sleep outside my arms!
Post # 3
For the first year of DD’s life I had her in the Moby Wrap or the Baby Bjorn when we were out and about, never a stroller. It was just easier, I have nothing against strollers. Most of the time if we were walking about or doing something she’d fall asleep anyway.
I did put her down for naps in her own crib though. I couldn’t just wear her all day, I had to get stuff done! She ate and slept like a champ, rarely cried, it was fine. But I think you can have all those things anyway whether or not you practice attachment parenting. I guess I did a sort of modified attachement parenting. I have no problem with co-sleeping, but Dirty Delete hated it. Once she was in her own space she was sleeping through the night by 10 weeks.
You’ll get a feel pretty quickly for what your individual baby will or won’t tolerate. Some methods of parenting people swear by just don’t work for every baby, and my baby was definitely not into sharing her sleep space.
Post # 4
My youngest was very sick as an infant. I did wear her much of the time but always put her in her crib for scheduled nap times and at night for just that reason. I wore her because I needed to have her close at hand to care for her special needs but she did become so used to it she demanded it. Her knickname was kangaroo.
I agree with pp. No 2 kids are alike. There is no way to tell what you will end up having to do so it is better to just stay openminded.
Post # 5
I think a lot of it depends on baby and parents personality. Honestly when she was a newborn I just held her most of the time, no sling just arms and got stuff slowly done around the house. Now she takes most of her naps out of my arms, swaddles were helpful, but shes a pretty flexible baby. As she got older (shes only 3-1/2 months now) she’d wake up more if she was in my arms since I cant just sit still so it works better for us for her to take naps in her bed. She also doesnt always like to be worn if I’m trying to put away dishes or laundry, where there’s a lot of dipping down, so we have lots of little baby places to put her and shift her around when she gets bored and put her in the sling or carry her when we can. So we play it by ear and try to find ways where both baby and parents are happy, which for us is some baby wearing and baby spots where she can be close to us when shes not on us.
Post # 6
Pretty much ditto to the previous posters. Once you’re baby is here, you’ll find out what works for you.
My husband and I both wore our daughter in the Moby when she was really little, probably 4 – 5 hours a day. At about 3 months, she went on carrier strike, and refused to go into any of the baby carriers we tried. Luckily, it didn’t last that long, and by 4 months, we wore her whenever we went out. It was easier than using a stroller. During her carrier strike, we started putting her down for naps alone, in her own crib. Before that, someone held her for all her naps; we also co-slept at night until she was 11 months. We never had an issue transitioning with her sleeping on her own, though. We were very lucky in that department.
Post # 7
My Dirty Delete does not like to be worn, so if I am doing stuff around the house she sits in her bouncy chair and hangs out. She doesn’t mind it if we go for a walk or something, but she is pretty independant. She busted out of the swaddle at 1.5 months and was sleeping through the night in her crib at 2.5 months, and never wants to cuddle. wah. I wanna hold her all day! lol!
Post # 8
We used Lovey duds until 15-16 lbs and then switched to Ergo. Cecilia still takes every nap in her Ergo. She loves it! Baby wearing is so nice because you’ve got two hands free while you are holding your baby.
We also love the Dr. Sears Discipline book for toddlers and pretty much practice as much AP as possible!