(Closed) Baby won't take Bottle and I'm suppose to go away – WWYD?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would you do
    Go on the trip no matter what : (15 votes)
    60 %
    Stay home if you can't figure it out before : (10 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 2
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    Well, as another breastfeeding mama, I would prob not go.  With my first I tried pumping and freezing milk “just in case”, or so that I could get my hair done or something and not have to wirry about my baby not eating.  But she would not take it, and the stress of it all made me go a different route.  So, I would bring Darling Husband and baby, and have them near so that I could nurse as needed.  If that was not an option, I would say I can’t go sorry.  But not sorry, because, my babies always come first, and they will not need you like forever…  

    Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    oh, and there is no “right” thing here.  There is what makes you feel comfortable.  If you stay home or if you go, you will have guilt either way.  But which of the choices feels best for YOU?  In your heart, where are you pulled?

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    What’s his solid intake like?  Milk should be #1 until age one but if he’s taking in a good amount of solid food I would be a little less worried by the dip in milk.

    I never made enough breast milk for both my twins so they took bottles, so maybe an exclusive breastfeeder can clarify, but I thought I’d seen somewhere that there wasn’t much reason to introduce bottles this late in the game since you’ll be cutting them out at age one anyway.  Ditching the bottle was a bit of a pain for my girls, if you can avoid that by skipping the bachelorette party I would skip it for that alone.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    ExpectingBee:  The guilt that comes with having kids is NEVER easy.  The first time I left my first Dirty Delete is when I went into preterm labour with my second.  So here I was in a hospital bed, terrified for my second baby, and I was crying because i needed to bethe one to put Dirty Delete to bed, lol.  Funnynow cause it all worked out ok.  Sometimes we can choose, sometimes we can’t.  But if you know you can’t leave him, that is fine.  And your friends should at least try to understand that you are a mom now, and none if it is easy!  Beyond that, he was just sick, and they get very clingy…  it can take a while for that to pass.  It is almost like they are more clingy after they are sick than while they are sick, lol.  ((hugs))

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    jennmariee:  most ebf babes will not take a bottle this late in the game, but they will often take a sippy cup.  But if you have never given formula they prob won’t take that either.  My kids would no drink milk until hey were 2, I think they taste was too different.m  But since he was sick, I suspect he is just needing some mommy time.  

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    jcent:  Oh yeah good point, my girls were used to about half and half Bridesmaid or Best Man and formula but if her little guy isn’t used to formula that might be the trouble.  I tried buying a different brand once and one of my girls literally spit it back at me, they can be picky.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

     

    jennmariee:  they sure are!

    Post # 10
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I don’t have children so this may be a really silly question, but has someone else tried to bottle feed him? I babysat for a family years ago and the youngest absolutely refused a bottle from her mom, preferring to nurse instead. Yet, I could feed her a bottle of pumped milk with essentially no problems (she maybe would fuss for a minute or so, but then get over it and would down the bottle pretty quickly) and I think she would take a bottle from her dad as well. I feel like this baby was quite a bit younger (maybe 6-9ish months?) when this was occuring though. I have no idea how common problems like this are, but maybe it would be worth having someone else attempt to bottle feed him if they haven’t already. Now I’ll end the unsolicited advice from a non-mother, haha!

    Again, I’m not a mother, but to answer your questions, I woulndn’t go if it wasn’t sorted out. There is no way I could go and not be so worried the entire time about the baby and how traumatic the situation could be for both him and the dad. 

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    Just throwing in my two cents… I would not be comfortable at a bachlorette party with someone’s husband and baby trailing along where ever we go. Because I’d know it would be wayyy easier and more comfortable for you to have just stayed home.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    ExpectingBee:  They do still need milk.  My DS had his first birthday a few weeks ago, so they are almost the same age, and he still drinks a lot of milk.  I am not sure on ounces, as he is still BF’ed, but he nurse about 8 times in 24 hours still.  

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I have a 10 month old who is breastfed but will take a bottle here or there if need be. If it was me, I would go on the trip. Baby will be fine. If he gets hungry enough, he’ll take the bottle from dad. Babies go into daycare all the time never having taken a bottle, they survive. (My friend is the director of a daycare and has run into this issue so many times she can’t count. The baby always ends up taking a bottle when they get hungry enough). BUT, that’s what I would do. You have to do what’s right for you and your family. 

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