Post # 1
I was at a friend’s place and left my husband to watch our 2 1/2 month old baby while I stepped into another room. When I came back, I saw my friend pick up my baby, who still can’t hold his head on his own. Instead of supporting his head/neck, my friend just used both hands to support his bottom.
As soon as I saw this, I shouted that he can’t hold his head on his own and ran towards my friend and baby. But by then DS’s back had arched back and his head flopped back and it was a good five seconds before he got any support to his neck/head. I usually warn everyone who wants to hold the baby that his head is still wobbly but I wasn’t there this time to warn my friend and I just feel terrible about it and keep kicking myself for leaving the room. And DH assumed everyone just automatically knows to support a baby’s head so he didn’t say anything.
Anyway, I’m just so worried sick that there was some damage done. When I mention my concerns to my husband, he just gets mad at me and tells me to call the doctor. But it’s the weekend so I won’t be able to call his pediatrician until tomorrow.
Does anyone know what signs to look for if DS was hurt? He did whimper and cry (not hard) for a few minutes after the incident and the little guy barely cries. 🙁 So I’m sure the incident at the very least scared him. At the moment, he seems to be okay… smiling, cooing, and nursing well. I could just be paranoid but I did notice his head sort of leaning towards the right when doing tummy time. Any insight or advice would help. Thank you!
Post # 3
Don’t worry new mom, he’s fine. Probably momentarily scared, but if something was really wrong you would know.
When I witnessed my friend’s birth the docs were handling the baby like a mini pizza.
Post # 4
@fuzzypeach: I think that if you are truly concerned you should call the ped. They all have answering services and a doctor will call you back. Or go to the er. Not much the internet can tell you.
Post # 5
@fuzzypeach: I agree with PP, call the doctor anyway or go to the ER. I don’t think you’ll be able to rest easy unless you know for sure your little guy is fine. I’m pretty sure it’s nothing though, he probably got a little scare out of it, that’s all, but I think your peace of mind is worth a trip to the doctor. Fingers crossed your baby is fine!
Post # 6
@fuzzypeach: I would guess that baby is okay, buuuut its always easier to call or bring them in to put yourself at ease.
Post # 7
Im sure he is just fine. My DD’s head was very floppy for a very long time and we had many incidents of her flipping her head back or people not supporting her neck properly and shes just fine.
If his head kind of flopped back ie not violently then there should be nothing to worry about. Think of what the poor litle things heads and necks go through when being born!
If you are at all concerned just pop him down to the hospital, they will bump you to the front of the line and you will most likely be there less than an hour.
He most likely let out a little cry because he was startled or infact he may have been able to sense that you were uneasy and it scared him a little.
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice, Bees. I’m sure part of it is that I’m extra paranoid since it is my first child, but I will be giving the ped’s office a call to see what they say.
Thank you for putting me at ease. I have to keep reminding myself babies are a lot sturdier than I give them credit for.
Post # 9
He may have been more scared that his mom was shouting and charging the woman who was holding him, rather than hurt…
Post # 10
@fuzzypeach: The first time my mom took me to the doctor (I was about a month old), the NURSE didn’t support my head and it hit the table pretty hard. Mom still remembers that nurse when we see her. I’m sure baby will be fine but talk to your doctor to make sure.
Post # 11
yeah. I get being mama bear, but reacting this way probably scared baby more than the head flip. Babies are really resilient, and I pretty sure all babies have a few incidents like this. Not that we shouldt avoid them, but obviously there would be a lot more of us with brain damage walking around if every flop did damage. This is kind of the early version of your kid falling, you just can’t expect it will never happen, they will fall, they will get hurt, they will be ok.
i hope you apologized to your friends for reacting that way in the moment. It sounds like she had good intentions, i would hate to think of her avoiding you or the baby because you yelled at her. But if you yelled at me like that over a simple mistake, I’d be like “woah,” and probably not offer to help or hold baby again lest I get yelled at.
Post # 12
I’m sure your baby is fine!
Post # 13
I agree. I had actually typed up much of what you said in your second paragraph but then couldn’t decide if I could say it without sounding snarky. If a friend started shouting and running at me, you can bet that I would NOT be helping them out again. Probably even if they apologized. Unfortunately it doesn’t seem like OP actually felt bad about doing that.
Post # 14
@fuzzypeach: He is most likely fine. He probably cried because you scared him by yelling and running over.
Post # 15
So I know every baby developes differently, but this was my son doing Tummy Time at 2 months, 5 days. As you can see, there is NO reason to think that someone not supporting his head could do any harm. Yes, if someone picks him up while he was relaxed, his head might go backwards, but the typical baby should have more than enough muscle control at that age to support their own head once they recover from the initial pick-up.
if you have concerns about your baby’s neck muscles, you should contact your Dr. However, I think the concern about supporting an infant’s head is for the first few weeks, after that, you really don’t need to be quite as vigilent.
Agreed! One of the best parenting moments I ever witnessed is when my friend’s 2 year old son was running around and fell down. I went to get up to reach for him and she held me back and said “hold on”, then she calmly said to her son “you’re ok, aren’t you” and he looked at her, smiled, got up and started running again. Without a doubt, if I would have rushed at him, he would have started crying. Sometimes we teach children to overreact to situations based on our reactions!
Post # 16
I can understand how that would be scary! The bees who are saying he’s probably find seem right though–I wouldn’t worry about it.