Post # 1
So my baby shower is this weekend. My SIL (DH brothers wife) is the main host and organized the event. My mother is doing alot of the food and the cake and supplying the room. My Grandmother is doing more food. My other SIL and niece are doing a game and providing the game prizes. The host has organized everyone who wanted to participate and she is providing some food and 2 other games. My Mother-In-Law is doing the favors and decor with the help of her mother. So all in all I have 2 grandmothers, 2 mom’s, 2 SIL and a very cuts niece all putting this together.
Should I be getting a hostess present? If so, for who or all of them and if for all of them what do I get since there are so many?
Post # 2
Hmm, I would probably get your SIL a hostess present as she is the main host, and then maybe buy a box of chocolates or champagne for your grandmothers, mothers etc to share all together to just say a thankyou for helping. Of course its too many people to give everyone an individual present and they probably wont expect anything but it will be nice to give something small just like chocolates.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’ve hosted plenty of baby showers and wedding showers, and I’ve never received a hostess gift. From that perspective, I don’t think they are necessary. A lovely thank you card to each of the hosts would be a nice touch. 🙂
Post # 4
missjewels: IT’ll depend on your budget. It doesn’t have to be expensive.
My Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) did all the organizing. I knew this in advance so I made her a new couch blanket (she chose the colours. She’d asked me for one in the past, so I knew she wanted one.) I also got her a gift certificate to her favourite store and put it in her thank you card as a small little surprise. And I wrote all over the front and back of her card (I really should have got a bigger card for hers!)
An elderly friend of the family actually hosted the shower at her condo (in the party room). She goes for dinner to a particular restaurant every Tuesday. So I bought two dinner’s worth of gift certificates and put it in her thank you card (she would NOT have accepted them if I’d given them to her personally.) Of course, now she keeps trying to pay for my mum’s dinner every Tuesday!
My BMs and 2 aunts helped out a bit. I just thanked them for helping the Maid/Matron of Honor in their thank you card.
For my mum, who helped my sister the most, I paid for a new cell phone for her. She doesn’t know yet. It’s still on its way. 😛 She desperately needed a new cell phone. (I didn’t buy the phone outright! I just paid the up front fee. I did the same for my pops.)
Everyone who attended the shower got a hand soap (my sister bought those) and hand made dish cloths (from me). And then, of course, I sent out personalized thank you cards.
Post # 5
I gave my bridesmaids and my mom a hostess gift for my wedding shower. My BMs all got wine totes with their favorite wines and a handwritten thank you card.(MOH got gift card for Anthropologie too) And my mom got a necklace with a card. My mom was so touched but honestly my BMs could have cared less really. Nobody expects a gift but it is nice. I would do something small and then an added something for the main person. You have a lot of people that are helping out so don’t go broke on them!
Post # 6
missjewels: Whoa, that is a lot of people. While you technically have 1 host, it seems like the workload is spread very evenly.
When I hosted my friends baby shower she gave me a nice thank you card and a bottle of wine. I wasn’t expecting anything but loved the gesture.
For my showers I gave my BMs ‘stress relief’ lotion for bath and body works, with a card, they loved it too.
For you I would suggest something similar, nice but not too expensive or hard to find. Wine or chocolates would be good, they’re easy and inexpensive. Novelty items are fun too. You could get mugs ‘#1 aunt’, ‘#1 gramma’, people like those.
Depends on your budget, but if it were me I would get all the above age people wine, and your neices some kind of trinket… or baby doll, or movie… something age appropriate.