Post # 1
Hi, I need Bee assistance! A good friend of mine, from kindergarten, is having her first baby at 36. My kids are almost 5 and 7 and personally I have never been into babyshowers, to the point that I specifically asked not to have one with either of my pregnancies. BUT it is very important to my friend to have a babyshower and, as her mom is rather old and her sister is overseas, they have asked me to plan and host the babyshower. She is not into any funny business with regards to dressing up in a nappy and things like that. I am thinking of a low key, intimate affair… She only has a guest list of 20. So I would just like some feedback from the pregnant bees as to their own expectations for their babyshowers… I dont want it to be boring, but I also dont want to do anything to embarass her, because that’s how things sometimes go with Afrikaans babyshowers…. And that is SO NOT cool!
Post # 3
I’ve had two showers, one at a teahouse and one at a restaurant, although most other showers I’ve been to have been in someone’s home. Basically the order of the day is something like this:
- Guests arrive
- Host(s) introduce themselves, explain any ongoing games or guestbook/scrapbook/well wishes for mommy that needs to be done during the shower
- Eat – Typical menu seems to be finger sandwiches, veggie/fruit trays, cake, cookies, maybe a salad, rarely anything hot. Coffee, tea, water, non-alcoholic punch to drink.
- Presents get opened
- Mommy says thank you to guests and host (s)
- Formal “cake” time if you’re getting a fancy cake
- Everyone goes home
All the showers I’ve been to have been pretty low key, nothing embarassing, lasting about 3 hours in the afternoon. Sometimes daddy-to-be arrives in the last 15 minutes to say hello, have some cake, ooh and ahhh over the gifts and help mommy load up the car.
It’s nice to have games that are ongoing through the present opening, like a bingo game (squares are gifts/items commonly bought for baby rather than the numbers, this makes people pay attention to gift opening and also makes it fun for them) or the clothes peg game.
Check out blogs like hostess with the mostess, they always have GREAT ideas and inspiration! I’m slightly obsessed with that site…
Post # 4
@babybuzz: thanks so much for The info! Exactly what I had in mind! I am also getting each guest to donate a square of fabric from old shirts or skirts and I am having those sewn together as the top part of a baby quilt!
Post # 5
@babybuzz: +1. Every baby shower I’ve ever attended has followed that pattern.
Post # 6
@Katie Koekblik: Awww that’s a LOVELY idea! I adore that!!!
Post # 7
The best baby shower I went to and had the most fun at had that same schedule, but it was less typical in that it had a champagne and wine bar, “real” food. It was a BBQ buffet style (IE not light fare) It was more cocktail party than frilly girly party.
Post # 8
At my shower a few weeks ago, it was just some mingling for a while while eating the food. Then, we all sat down and played one game. It was baby trivia, which was a shout out to me since I love trivia. Then I opened gifts, we had cupcakes, mingled a bit more and everyone left. It was nice and low key. I hate games, so I’m glad we just had this nice low key fun one.
Post # 9
I haven’t had my shower yet, but this is what I know about it:
It will be at my MIL’s home, later afternoon, and she will be serving tea and light snacks. But it won’t be a stuffy kind of tea party, it will be very laidback. Guest list will be maybe 20 – 30 ladies.
I have no idea if she’s planning games – I personally don’t care for shower games at all. Some of them are tolerable but in general, I don’t find them fun. The most important things are food, beverage and ease of mingling.
Post # 10
I am planning my best friend’s shower right now. It won’t be anything big and fancy, just close friends and family and it will be a brunch shower with lots of breakfast type foods (French toast sticks, mini quiches, breakfast casserole, donut holes, fruit, etc) and a mimosa bar (the mother-to-be requested that there be some type of cocktail). We won’t be playing any games either at her request. It will be very low-key. Guests will arrive, people will eat, drink mimosas and socialize and then the mother-to-be will open her gifts. I’m actually really excited about it!
Post # 11
My mother-in-law had a nice brunch at a local fancy resturant since it was small. She did a signuature drink and flowers on the tables. They passed around scrapbook paper and everyone wrote words of advice. My girlfriends did a “POP” shower because I was about to POP and I craved popcorn. They found cute invites and decor on Etsy. They served soda pop, champagne, cake pops and popcorn. Very cute idea! My mom’s friends did a little pumpkin shower with pumpkins and orange/teal colors. The shower was the week before Halloween. Very cute. They did a variety of salads; chicken salad, potatoe salad, fruit salad etc…