(Closed) Babysitters available for reception, but who pays?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I were a parent and received that on an invitation, I would assume babysitting services were being provided by the bride and groom. Since parents may have already made arrangements thinking this was the case, I would just cover the cost for them. It will make your wedding much more enjoyable for your guests, and that should be the main focus of your wedding (after the actual “getting married” part, ofcourse).

Post # 4
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

From your wording, I would assume it was a free service.

Post # 5
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the others – I would have interpreted as you offering the services.  You still may need to send additional information, however, as even if you’re providing the sitters, you need to know the number and ages of the children that will need watched after.

Post # 6
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

From your wording, it does sound like you are going to pay for it.  However, you can still get out of it if $ is an issue.  When people call regarding babysitting, tell them up front it would be at their expense.  Then they can decide if they want to use your babysitter or their own.   

Post # 7
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

sounds like you have to pay for it now

Post # 8
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

From your wording, I would definitely assume that it is something you are providing as a free service to those guests with children.

Post # 9
2422 posts
Buzzing bee

I would definitely assume that babysitting would be included. 

Post # 10
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yep, I would assume they were free. You will have a lot of VERY appreciative moms, I imagine, but you should definitely pay for this yourself. 

Post # 11
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yup, gotta go along with the others.

However, I’d just hand the kids over to MY mother and go without them.  I doubt everyone has that option, though.

If I didn’t have any other option, I take you up on it, but I’d also be checking on the kids off-and-on, too.  

Post # 12
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Personally, I’d be the type to call the # for more information…because I’d want to know how many kids will be there, how many babysitters, etc. But I’m just like that and realize not all parents would be! I would be surprised to find out I had to pay for it though because I agree with the PP’s.

Is there any way you can call those who you think will use the sitter and chat with them and ask them to help pitch in? You could say something like you need to find out how many kids to expect (which really, you do…because you shouldn’t have ONE babysitter for like 30 kids all age ranges or something). You could maybe say that you didn’t realize so many children would be attending and you’d appreciate if any parents can help chip in. Personally I’d gladly pay something extra to know that there are more helping hands available.

I’m doing this exact thing for those in the wedding party with children. But I’ve asked them to pitch in a little bit of pay for the sitter. We’ll set up a little slumber party in my MIL’s room with a DVD player and some movies.

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