Post # 1
We have decided on an adults-only reception. On the invitations, I wrote, “Babysitting services will be available during the reception. Contact Kim for more information (and I added my #)”. Here’s the dilemma…I was not planning to pay for the services. However, I feel like I may not have been clear about the expectations on my invitations. Do I send additional information to the parents, stating the cost? Or, do I have to pay for it, now? The wedding is September 17th…about 2 months away.
Post # 3
If I were a parent and received that on an invitation, I would assume babysitting services were being provided by the bride and groom. Since parents may have already made arrangements thinking this was the case, I would just cover the cost for them. It will make your wedding much more enjoyable for your guests, and that should be the main focus of your wedding (after the actual “getting married” part, ofcourse).
Post # 4
From your wording, I would assume it was a free service.
Post # 5
I agree with the others – I would have interpreted as you offering the services. You still may need to send additional information, however, as even if you’re providing the sitters, you need to know the number and ages of the children that will need watched after.
Post # 6
From your wording, it does sound like you are going to pay for it. However, you can still get out of it if $ is an issue. When people call regarding babysitting, tell them up front it would be at their expense. Then they can decide if they want to use your babysitter or their own.
Post # 7
sounds like you have to pay for it now
Post # 8
From your wording, I would definitely assume that it is something you are providing as a free service to those guests with children.
Post # 9
I would definitely assume that babysitting would be included.
Post # 10
Yep, I would assume they were free. You will have a lot of VERY appreciative moms, I imagine, but you should definitely pay for this yourself.
Post # 11
Yup, gotta go along with the others.
However, I’d just hand the kids over to MY mother and go without them. I doubt everyone has that option, though.
If I didn’t have any other option, I take you up on it, but I’d also be checking on the kids off-and-on, too.
Post # 12
Personally, I’d be the type to call the # for more information…because I’d want to know how many kids will be there, how many babysitters, etc. But I’m just like that and realize not all parents would be! I would be surprised to find out I had to pay for it though because I agree with the PP’s.
Is there any way you can call those who you think will use the sitter and chat with them and ask them to help pitch in? You could say something like you need to find out how many kids to expect (which really, you do…because you shouldn’t have ONE babysitter for like 30 kids all age ranges or something). You could maybe say that you didn’t realize so many children would be attending and you’d appreciate if any parents can help chip in. Personally I’d gladly pay something extra to know that there are more helping hands available.
I’m doing this exact thing for those in the wedding party with children. But I’ve asked them to pitch in a little bit of pay for the sitter. We’ll set up a little slumber party in my MIL’s room with a DVD player and some movies.