Post # 17
This is how everyone on here reacts to this and its the right way of thinking. I cant believe i was in tears last night thinking i was this horriable person for not trusting others. It pssies me off thinking that this family does this to me all the time. The dog bite my kid in the face no body reacts only to attack me. The kids leave the poolroom door open, after i said keep door close or toddler will fall in pool. Nobody listens and cares. I am seriously upset about this. You beez have assured me that i can be ok with this and its not me, that i can get my own reasonsable babysitter and if i can not find i will not go. Plain and simple. Maybe i should get a pitball and have it bite them and say OPPS.
Post # 18
There’s bigger issues here, your husnband is acting like a dick about this.. Pardon my French.
Why won’t he even communicate with you about this?
Post # 19
@suez: This kid is obviously not qualified to babysit. This is your child and you and your husband are the only people whose opinions matter when it comes to picking out a suitable babysitter. Your in-laws have no right to tell you who to leave your kids with. I agree with others who have said that if a babysitter is unwilling to change diapers, they should not be babysitting.
Post # 20
WTF? You are NOT in the wrong here! I’d sit this party out…
Post # 21
@suez: I do not have kids, but I would not trust a 13-year old with my toddler. While every thirteen year old is different, I want someone who is responsible, will change diapers, etc – but also someone who is old enough and mature enough to handle a problem.
When we let people baby-sit, we trust them with our most precious children. God forbid anything were to happen, I would want someone experienced watching my children. The fact that someone is family makes no difference in their ability to handle a slip-and-fall or other accident/emergency. If the grandparents have an issue with it, they can babysit.
Remind your husband about the things that can go wrong, and the importance of leaving your child with someone who can handle those issues. And furthermore, trust your instincts. You are a mom – if something feels wrong, don’t do it!
Post # 22
@suez: First, is it SUPER RUDE to exclude children if others are invited. Either all children are invited or none whatsoever.
Second, YOU are that child’s mother and his biggest advocate and protector. If you do not feel comfortable, go to care.com and hire someone to watch your son.
Hell, I would not go to the party. Baby suddenly has a fever
Post # 23
Excuse my Portguese but dafuck?!
The dog BITE your kid and they got angry at YOU?!
I would not be bringing my baby over there anymore.
Post # 24
Yeah, I’d be having some choice words with your in-laws. As other posters have pointed out, something seems really off about them. I do think it’s important to be able to leave your kids with people you trust so that you can occasionally do things on your own, or in the case of an emergency… but your in-laws don’t get to decide who you trust, and “being family” sure as hell isn’t a good enough reason. Next time they sit you down like a toddler I’d tell them I didn’t need their condescending bullshit.
But then I’m not always a people person.
Post # 25
No way in hell would I let a 13 year old babysit a 2 year old.
Post # 26
If that family does things like leave the door to the pool open, or let a dog bite your child, then NO WAY IN HELL is their 13 year old babysitting my toddler. Most of the time “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree”, i.e. kids are like their parents.
Sorry if this is sexist but unless I knew him extremely well, I would not let any 13 year old boy babysit alone. Let alone a boy from that family. I’ve heard too many stories of child abuse.
Make up an excuse. Make up a lie if you have to – say you need to be home anyway, or you are sick, and that kid is not babysitting your precious toddler. Usually I do not advocate lying, but your responsibility as a parent comes ahead of the need not to lie. And let your husband attend the party without you – he’ll be fine, and it sounds like you don’t want to go anyway.
EDIT: I just saw where you wrote that your husband always backs up his family. I’m sorry to say this but the real problem is your husband. He needs a good talking to about being loyal to you ahead of his family. But either way, don’t let the 13 year old babysit. Who cares what your husband and his family think – your child comes first.
Post # 27
@suez: No way does that kid sound mature enough to babysit such a young child. Tell your family members to butt out – be strong and stand up for yourself!
Post # 28
Thirteen seems a little young for such a small child. Trust your gut
Post # 29
@suez: is this babysitting happening where the party, so the 13 year old is just keeping an eye on him and there will be others around, or is he going to babysit alone at your house?
I personally wouldn’t allow a 13 year old babysit my child (if I had one) and it wouldn’t matter who the 13 year old was. He does not seem interested and if he won’t do a basic and most needed job of changing a nappy then he shouldn’t be doing it. Maybe your Mother-In-Law should do it with him if she really wants him to do it!
Post # 30
@suez: I’m sorry, his family could kiss my ass. Seriously. I wouldn’t endanger the life of my toddler to make anyone happy. They’ll just have to get over it.
Post # 31
Some 13 year olds could babysit a toddler – but this scenario does not sound good. I have a 2 year old, and this would not fly with me.