(Closed) Babysitting my 2 yr old

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

There is no way I’d leave my 2 year old with a 13 year old who won’t change a diaper and put the baby on a table and walked away. Your husband is being an ass and so are your ILs.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@suez: This 13 year old seems too young (re: immature) to me to watch a 2 year old.

 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@suez:  No way I’d let him watch my baby. Sometimes, as a mom, you have to look like the “mean” one or the “stick in the mud” in order to do what you feel is best for your child.

I can’t think of any 13 year old boy that I would trust with a baby for more then 10 minutes lol. 

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My FH probably started babysitting when he was about 13, but his family fostered a LOT of babies and he was practically born to be a father. This kid? No way. Stand your ground and don’t let it happen. 

Post # 36
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Busy Beekeeper

No. you decide who is apporiate and capable of watching your two year old. And how does 13 year old watch a 2 year old. Who is watching the 13 year old? Whatever, they can go suck it. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee

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@suez:  Why in the world is your husband not worried about the safety of your child? How old is he?   The parents were wrong for telling you what you need to be doing with your child.  Yo have to find a polite way tpo tell them to piss off and tell your husband that he needs to back you.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

ABSOLUTELY NOT. He put him on the pool table and refuses to change diapers.

No way would this kid, relation or not, babysit my 2 year old.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee

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@suez:  I would not trust that kid to watch my child. 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@suez:  Sorry, but I wouldn’t trust a 13 year old kid to babysit my toddler. 

Tell your in-laws they can go pound sand (in a nicer way of course). Your parenting decisions and choice of babysitter is 100% not their business. 

Your kid’s safety and well being are a hell if a lot more important than any party. Once something bad has happened, it’s too late to take it back. This isn’t something you gamble on.

either send your husband to the party alone, or find a far more mature, reliable and experienced babysitter.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@suez:  I started babysitting was I was 13. But I was great with kids and very responsible. This kid does not sound responsible. No way no way NO WAY! 

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper

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@suez:  His mother will get involved and they will talk behind my back and my husband calls me a wack job.

What in the blue *(&^@! Are you serious? You had issues long before you married and had a child with him and you chose to ignore them. And you have to arrange for childcare behind his back. I don’t understand this at all. Good luck, your gonna need it. 

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@suez Your husband needs to be on the same page as you about this. I mean WHY are they all pushing you into letting this 13 year old babysit? I find that disturbing and also that you have to hire a responsible babysitter behind your husbands back. He should be WANTING YOUR CHILD TO BE SAFE.

If the 13 year old wants to learn childcare invite him over to learn and help you out for a few months then maybe if you feel he’s learned how to properly care for a toddler go out for a short dinner etc but ONLY if you feel comfortable.

If his family has a problem with it tough shit, it’s not their child, it’s yours.

I would respond to the 13 year old and say something like I said above “X I think very highly of you, however you haven’t learned how to care for a baby so I did what is best for my child. If you would like to come over and learn about childcare then maybe after some time and after you’ve had some learning experience we can revisit the situation.”

I think you and your DH need counseling, you obviously have very different attitudes towards parenting and he lets his family walk all over you…not cool.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

WTF. I wouldn’t allow the most “responsible” 13 year old in the planet watch my child. Not going to happen. Kids shouldn’t be watching kids. Period.

Also, I’m sure you aren’t serious and it was meant more as a joke, but getting a PITBULL to bite your inlaws isn’t a mature/wise thing to do. Or joke about!

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

He’s 13?!?!? Sorry not sorry, but he’s a kid himself. I would never leave a 2 year old with anyone that wasn’t AT LEAST 16 years old. It’s your child we’re talking about, it’s not worth the risk of something going wrong. 

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