Post # 47
Let me tell you, I COMPLETELY understand. I have a 4 and 5 year old and aside from their dad (and my younger very responsible sister who is also a nurse – and this was only twice), no one has ever babysat them for me. Everyone thinks I am paranoid because yes, I am.
My philosophy is, it is better to be safe than sorry. Go by your instincts period! And the diaper thing? No, I won’t have done it if I were you.
Post # 48
The first time I babysat, I was 8. Yes, eight years of age. I was caring for three toddlers; a three year old, a four year old, and a baby that was probably 18 months. They were my neighbors, and there we no adults present. Fast forward 17 years, and I still babysit occasionally. Unfortunately, that particular child was probably forced into babysitting, and he’s a boy….most (teenage) boys are going to struggle with the idea of changing diapers. And like a pp said, placing the child on any high surface is DEFINITELY a safety hazard!
I say, either don’t attend the party, or keep your child with you.
Post # 49
Someone who is not old enough to vote, drink, or drive, is not old enough, mature enough, or responsible enough to care for my child. Simple as that.
Post # 50
“Also, I’m sure you aren’t serious and it was meant more as a joke, but getting a PITBULL to bite your inlaws isn’t a mature/wise thing to do. Or joke about
It was a joke, but the reason she made the joke is because there has already been a dog biting incident: “The dog bite my kid in the face no body reacts only to attack me.” (post 16)
She’s dealing with some messed up relatives. But worse, she’s dealing with a husband who won’t support her.
Post # 51
My mistake! I totally missed the part about the dog biting incident.
OP you are in a really unhealthy marriage at the moment and I think you could really benefit from some one-on-one counciling with a professional to help you through these rought times. It can’t be easy being belittled by your husband or his family. :/
Post # 52
If the belittle your parenting then I suggest you find ways to keep your child way from them. They can come see the baby at home. If you must go there, do not let him out of your sight.
Post # 53
I don’t know why this is even a question. This is your child, so you make the rules. If you let people have a voice, they will. You need to simply say that you’re not comfortable with it. Period.
Post # 54
I think you did the right thing by finding another sitter. Tell you IL’s to piss off and you will raise your child how you see fit. Your husband needs to get his head out of his ass.
As a compromise to the 13 year old who was dragged into this by your Mother-In-Law maybe you could ask him to come over and “watch” your child while you are home. Make it sound like you need a hand so you can do some tasks around the house. I am sure after you show him how to change a diaper and he runs around after a toddler for a few hours this whole being dissapointed thing will go away.
Post # 55
@suez: it’s not the age, i started babysitting for a family just before their 3rd child was born when i was just under 13. i babysat for them for at least 5 years. i was very mature and responsible.
if this 13 year old won’t be responsible then i would find someone else. if the grandmother questions is, say that he is not responsible, won’t change diapers, etc and you are uncomfortable
Post # 55
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I babysat my nieces when i was that age all school holidays but i was responsible and looked after them and m sister knew i would stick to her rules etc.. dont let him do it..
Post # 56
The boy is not a responsible person.
Your child has been placed in a high place.
He has been bit in the face by a dog.
Pool safety has been an issue.
You are unhappy (understandably) about all this.
Don’t agree to the babysitting.
This won’t please your in-laws or your husband but you must be firm.
I am concerned at your husband’s lack of support for you in this matter. He needs to be just as interested in safety as you are. He needs to stand up for you at all times with his parents. He also needs to pay you attention at parties.