Post # 1
Hello everyone! This is my first post here, and I have come for advice. I am concerned about my bachelorette party – to the point where I’m seriously considering just skipping it to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings. The idea of not having one does make me a bit sad, so I’m hoping there’s some solution.
My bridesmaids: my sister(moh), his two sisters, & my two best friends from college.
My two friends from college have already been designated ‘b-party planners’, as the three of us have done this for each of each other’s weddings. Considering who we are, it just makes the most sense.
The problem…my sister is mentally ill. When she goes out, she drinks too much for anyone who has to take the medications that she does. Not only is this terrible for her health, but I am pretty sure I would spend my night having to watch over her. I am not sure I could talk to her about this without making her really upset.
In addition (but not as big of a concern), his two sisters are pretty religious, and may be uncomfortable with even mild debauchery. I could definitely handle this, but would probably be censoring myself all night.
My two friends have offered to have two separate parties…a tame dinner, etc. one for all, and a night on the town for the three of us. I worry that this will hurt feelings. Any advice?
Post # 3
@dickinson: No, I like the idea your friends have come up with. In my friends circle there is usually a day of activities, and people come and go to different things that suit their schedule/interests. There is usually something on the tame end, like a dinner or lunch, and also a clubbing outing etc for the girls to get more rowdy.
You could do your 2 events on different nights, and you don’t have to tell anyone that you are having 2. This way, there’ll be no hurt feelings, and you’ll still get to make everyone feel included.
Post # 4
I think the two separate events are a very respectful way to deal with this situation. Im doing the same, a dinner for those that aren’t into the other stuff and a night out with the girls that would love it.
Post # 5
Two separate parties would be good. You don’t even have to officially call your more wild one your bach party, just going out with your two good college friends.
Post # 6
I agree w/the other Bees, and have nothing to add.
I just posted to say when I read the title I thought you were having a Bach party, like the composer. I was quite intrigued to find out what a Bach party would be like. Hmm…maybe for your sister and the religious BMs, you SHOULD throw a Bach party…that should be pretty tame.
Post # 7
have the two but dont call the second one your bach party!! because that makes it so difficult!
Post # 8
@abirdword – thanks for the laugh:)
Thank you, everyone, for the input. Hearing the opinions from totally unboased people makes me feel better about the situation!
Post # 9
@dickinson: I think that idea is perfect! Have a Bridal party dinner and then a crazy night of debauchery
Post # 10
We’re going to go the route of two events as well, just because I think it’s more practical for the girls! I know some ladies won’t want to go out on the town, but they would totally feel left out if they couldn’t attend. So we’re doing a dinner then evening on the town 🙂
Post # 11
@abirdword: LOL!! I am crying laughing about the Bach party!
Post # 12
@sjeanette:j haha, thanks. I had a friend dress up as Mozart for his bachelor party, so it seemed plausible. lol.
Post # 13
2 events is the best idea–just don’t call your night of debauchery your b-party #2. In your situation, it’s exactly what I would do.