Post # 1
So I have been reading through a lot of the bad batchelor party threads but i have a sucky one to add…. My finace went to his last weekend…I knew strippers were going to be there with his friends that was a given and I gave him a couple rules hands to himself no drugs etc.
He came home at 4am and immediately tried to get sex from me when I got pissed and told him to go get in the shower because he was rubbing gross stripper all over me. After that i noticed a HUGE bruise on his butt. I mean HUGE like not just small here is link that i think represents well to how his butt looked black and blue broken blood vessels everything…
It turns out the stirppers had him on all fours like a dog and were beating him with a belt to which him and all his friends let this happen... now his butt so badly bruised and all I can see is a naked girl whipping with him whith a belt in my head. These bruises will last for weeks at least 3 or more they will be there on our wedding day they will be there on our wedding night and they will be there everyday on our honeymoon, and I am so disgusted and ashamed that this was done to him in from of ALL of the groomsmen who of course went home and told thier wives about it. I am so embarassed I do not know what to do. I have been in tears since it happend. Now I have to stand up in front of all these people and marry a man who let naked girls litterally beat him and do some serious damamge to his body...I mean this is not a spanking this is pure assault....
what would you do if your man came home with this...what would he do if you came home looking like that? please help
Post # 3
I would let it go personally and not let it damper my wedding and honeymoon.
Post # 4
You cant let something like that ruin your wedding and your wedding night. Your are really overreacting. he didnt have sex with anyone and i’m sure he didnt think that this would be disrespecting you by doing it.
I’m postive that “no getting spanked by the stripper” was NOT one of yoru rules.
Chill out.. enjoy your husband and let it go.
Post # 5
@Neverfast: ((HUGS)) I’m so sorry you’re upset, I would be too. But there’s not much you can do about it now, it’s already in the past. Just do your best to let it go.
Idea: How about adding your own bruises on top of those on his butt and then you won’t have to think of it the same way any more? Just kick him a few more times and he’ll have YOUR marks on him for the wedding and honeymoon.
Post # 6
I will say that beating the bachelor is a very common thing at strip clubs – all the guys pay for the groom to get hit & given a big wedgie. My husband was on stage, got swatted once and immediatly told the stripper that hit him, he would give her $40 bucks to stop and go hit one of his friends instead.
Personally, I don’t have any issues with strip clubs, and I already knew prior to my husband going that this beating is a typical thing that happens. I just made fun of him for it.
However, most guys know that this spanking happens & he should of told you ahead of time, given that it upset you after the fact.
Post # 7
Guys do some dumb sh*t when left to their own devices but I don’t see any reason to be ashamed. He gets to deal with the pain for the next few weeks.
Post # 8
Um. It sounds like he already got a pretty good punishment. I mean I can understand why you wouldn’t want to look at that on your wedding night or on the honeymoon, but it’s not like anyone else is going to see it. Maybe just try to avoid looking at his butt. And if he’s being a pain in the ass you can give him a swat and he’ll REALLY feel it (insert evil laugh here)! In all honesty, things could go much worse at a bach party. Unless he’s really into S&M then this was probably more funny than sexual. And it was probably rougher than intended due to decreased pain from drinking. Don’t let it stress you out. At this point worrying about it doesn’t do any good. Just laugh it off.
Post # 9
If this happened to me and my husband there is no doubt in my mind that I would be incredibly pissed and disgusted but I would have to get over it. He let it happen, he’s a grown man, and this doesn’t seem like a dealbreaker type of incident. I do understand why you are pissed but it seems like you’re gonna have to let this one slide.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I would be just as angry and pissed as you are if my man came home and told me a story like that!! I don’t think you are overreacting … but I do agree with previous posters in that you are going to have to let this go eventually. It’s a stupid mistake on his part to have let that happen, but just be thankful it didn’t go any further sexually!! Also if I were you, I would take every opportunity I could get to (lightly? … maybe…) spank him on that bruise as a reminder of how stupid he acted that night!!
Post # 12
He came home wanting YOU… let it go.
Post # 13
@AnnieAAA: It was not astrip club i wish they had gone there this was a “private party” at a house….
Post # 14
Id totaly be mad and purposely spank him in the same spot tomake him hurt some more, thats crazy! I didnt know a stripper party can get THAT crazy. I would also let it go though after hes been felt the wrath lol
Post # 15
You’re NOT overreacting. If it grosses you out, disgusts you, then you are entitled to feel grossed out and disgusted. Did you discuss this type of behavior with him prior to his party? Like did you set boundaries before? How would your husband to be feel if you were giving guys lap dances 3 days before your wedding BTW? I think his behavior was retarded and stupid.
Post # 16
@Neverfast: I think you’re overreacting. A spanking with a belt on his bach party is no big deal. Unless he is into S&M I doubt he enjoyed it very much. LOL