(Closed) Bachelor Part Foul…don’t know whether to be mad or sad….

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would let it go personally and not let it damper my wedding and honeymoon.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You cant let something like that ruin your wedding and your wedding night. Your are really overreacting. he didnt have sex with anyone and i’m sure he didnt think that this would be disrespecting you by doing it.

I’m postive that “no getting spanked by the stripper” was NOT one of yoru rules.

Chill out.. enjoy your husband and let it go.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Neverfast:  ((HUGS)) I’m so sorry you’re upset, I would be too.  But there’s not much you can do about it now, it’s already in the past.  Just do your best to let it go. 

Idea:  How about adding your own bruises on top of those on his butt and then you won’t have to think of it the same way any more?  Just kick him a few more times and he’ll have YOUR marks on him for the wedding and honeymoon.

Laughing

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I will say that beating the bachelor is a very common thing at strip clubs – all the guys pay for the groom to get hit & given a big wedgie. My husband was on stage, got swatted once and immediatly told the stripper that hit him, he would give her $40 bucks to stop and go hit one of his friends instead.

Personally, I don’t have any issues with strip clubs, and I already knew prior to my husband going that this beating is a typical thing that happens. I just made fun of him for it.

However, most guys know that this spanking happens & he should of told you ahead of time, given that it upset you after the fact.  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Guys do some dumb sh*t when left to their own devices but I don’t see any reason to be ashamed. He gets to deal with the pain for the next few weeks.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Um. It sounds like he already got a pretty good punishment. I mean I can understand why you wouldn’t want to look at that on your wedding night or on the honeymoon, but it’s not like anyone else is going to see it. Maybe just try to avoid looking at his butt. And if he’s being a pain in the ass you can give him a swat and he’ll REALLY feel it (insert evil laugh here)! In all honesty, things could go much worse at a bach party. Unless he’s really into S&M then this was probably more funny than sexual. And it was probably rougher than intended due to decreased pain from drinking. Don’t let it stress you out. At this point worrying about it doesn’t do any good. Just laugh it off.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If this happened to me and my husband there is no doubt in my mind that I would be incredibly pissed and disgusted but I would have to get over it.  He let it happen, he’s a grown man, and this doesn’t seem like a dealbreaker type of incident.  I do understand why you are pissed but it seems like you’re gonna have to let this one slide.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d let it go too.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I would be just as angry and pissed as you are if my man came home and told me a story like that!!  I don’t think you are overreacting … but I do agree with previous posters in that you are going to have to let this go eventually.  It’s a stupid mistake on his part to have let that happen, but just be thankful it didn’t go any further sexually!!  Also if I were you, I would take every opportunity I could get to (lightly? … maybe…) spank him on that bruise as a reminder of how stupid he acted that night!!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

He came home wanting YOU… let it go.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Id totaly be mad and purposely spank him in the same spot tomake him hurt some more, thats crazy! I didnt know a stripper party can get THAT crazy. I would also let it go though after hes been felt the wrath lol

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You’re NOT overreacting. If it grosses you out, disgusts you, then you are entitled to feel grossed out and disgusted. Did you discuss this type of behavior with him prior to his party? Like did you set boundaries before? How would your husband to be feel if you were giving guys lap dances 3 days before your wedding BTW? I think his behavior was retarded and stupid.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Neverfast:  I think you’re overreacting.  A spanking with a belt on his bach party is no big deal.  Unless he is into S&M I doubt he enjoyed it very much. LOL

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