Post # 1
Haha okay… call me crazy, but I really am actually excited for my FI to have a bachelor party. I trust him so much, and know that I have nothing to worry about. I see soooo many posts about women being super worried about the bachelor party, and I am beginning to think I am the only one who isn’t at all concerned.
I feel like maybe it’s cause I am the only person he has ever been with? I dont know haha. All I know is I have actually had to convince him, along with his groomsmens, to actually have a bachelor party. I am forcing him to go to a strip club actually hahaha, I just feel like it’s really not that big of a deal to be totally honest. A big group of us are going to go to Vegas, and on the first night the girls will go do their own thing with the bachelorette, and the guys will do theirs with the bachelor. Then we will spend the next few days all together.
Wow I totally rambled. If you’re still reading this, cool haha. I just felt like giving my perspective!
Edit : I added a poll, just for fun. I wanna see how ladies feel about them!
Post # 3
My fiancé isn’t having a bachelor party, but I completely agree. I have nothing against him going to see strippers / get smashed / whatever else men are supposed to do at those things. Men like boobs. It’s nothing new.
Post # 4
I really hope my FI has a great time at his bachelor party. I totally trust him and he deserves a great time. I’ve been unemployed since February so he’s been working SO HARD, specially the last couple months to support us and pay for our honeymoon.
My FI is a wonderful friend and is always there for him and some times they are kind of flakey on him but his two very best friends who are hours away are planning to come to his party so I’m real excited for him!
Post # 5
Neither my FI or I is interested in a bachelor/bachelorette party but I think it’s because of the attitude that some (not all!) people have of, “You’re getting married? Your life is OVER.”
Neither of us subcribe to that so we’re happy to skip it. I’m sure that we’ll both celebrate our marriage with our friends but once you add that label of it being a bachelor(ette) party, it’s just not for us.
Post # 6
I don’t necessarily think it’s whether you trust your man. It’s if you trust your man’s pals! I’ve heard horror stories about guys hiring hookers instead of strippers (so they can do much more than just look), about making the groom so drunk he doesn’t remember a thing, etc. I’ve heard it from coworkers, from friends, from exes, etc. That said, FI and his friends are a great group of guys, so I would not be worried.
Post # 7
I find the concept of bachelor parties disturbing—it’s like marriage is some sort of jail sentence and he has a last chance for a naked woman to grind on him.
Face it, fiance’s aren’t really ‘bachelors’ anymore anyway, they’re in committed relationships and usually live with their fiance before marriage.
If you’re usually cool with strip clubs then obv I can understand why you wouldn’t have a problem, I just find the meaning behind the whole thing kind of insulting—like damn if it’s such punishment marrying me why are you even doing it…..
Post # 8
I don’t think either of your poll options applies to me. We didn’t have bachelor/bachelorette parties; we just went out with a bunch of our friends and drank some beers and had dinner and had a wonderful time catching up. Neither of us are wild partiers, and we’ve been together since college so most of our friends are mutual.
Both DH and I think strip clubs are seedy and depressing and not appropriate places for people who are married/about to be, so that was never an issue. If we’d had separate parties, he probably would have gone on a fishing trip or done a pubcrawl or something along those lines, in which case of course I would have wanted him to have fun.
Post # 9
of course i want my fiance to go out and have a good time with his friends. i want the day to be about him! he deserves it. i just think a lot of bachelor party activites are done in a disrespectful fashion 🙁
and of COURSE i trust him. thats not the issue here.
Post # 10
I hope he gets motorboated by some awesomely enormous and fake tanned-orange boobies while listening to bad techno music and drinking overpriced beer. 😀
And I plan on dancing with drag queens.
This is how we roll.
Post # 11
I have no problem with strippers and whatever they want to do. His best man is a woman, so I think we’re all going to go to a strip club (I’ve never been, while my fiance doesn’t care for them much)
For anyone worried about strip clubs, I’d like to share a story. My fiance was in a wedding bck in September. For his bachelor party, they did not go to a strip club. Instead, they went bar hopping. There were plenty of young, drunk ladies throwing themselves at the guys all night. Nothing happened because the men were trustworthy, but they had plenty of opportunities.
Strippers are there as eye candy. They want a couple of dollars, but he’s not even on their radar sexually. Girls in bars have no restrictions on whether they can go home with people, can be drunk, and might see the groom as a challenge. My point is he can see boobs anywhere he goes. Women can throw themselves at him whenever he is in public. With my fiance, I trust him and I know he’s not going to give in (nor would he want to), so I don’t care what he does.
I think traditional bachelorette parties are just as tasteless (if not moreso) as bachelor parties. Male revue shows don’t have the boundaries that strip clubs featuring women do. And I’ve seen far too many brides to be in their blinky veils, penis necklaces, pink sashes, utterly shit faced, grinding on some random dude while her tongue is down his throat.
Post # 12
I think it really depends on what the bachelor party consists of. I was thrilled for my husband to have his party because they went golfing and then went to Dave & Buster’s! His perfect evening, and very fiancee-friendly. 😉
Post # 13
We used are parties as an excuse to have our girl/guy time. It wasn’t about having that last hoorah as we feel we are both still in a relationship. I dunno. We both had fun and since we are always so busy it was nice to get out for once.
Post # 14
I was SO psyched for DH’s bachelor party!! We had ours on the same night in different cities so we even drunk dialed each other.
I even wanted him to have a lap dance and offered to pay for it. DH still talks about how gross it was. lol!!!
But anyways, I trusted DH and I wanted him to have a nice stress free night before the wedding!
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2012 - The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall
I agree with Gemstone. I think it depends what the bachelor party entails. I was very happy/excited for my hubby to have his bachelor party because I knew it wasn’t going to be some wild night of debauchery!
Post # 16
I want him to have a bachelor party but not strippers. I personally know men that have gone to strip clubs and came back with things and my fiance, in his “bachelor” days has slept with a few girls that have now become strippers where we live. I dont want some sleezeball he slept with before me putting her bare vagina in his face, because that is what they do. Anything for a buck.
Sorry this sounds kinda rude and I dont mean to be in any way. lol. Needless to say, we will be going out and having fun but we dont need naked people dancing on us to do it. We figure if we werent into strippers our whole relationship, why force it now?