- 5 years ago
My finance and I have been together for 5 years, when we met we lived in different cities and spent a year flying back and forth seeing one another. After our credit cards quickly racking up, I choose to move to his city. After a few months of living together I realized he had a somewhat serious (I say somewhat due to the fact that it was a one or two time a month problem with drugs) drinking and drug problem. This early on caused major trust issues between us. After figuring out what to do and how to approach this problem he went on his own to get help. This of course is not without numerous benders and lying. I was able to move on becuase he stopped partying to that extreme level. The other day we were driving and he ran into the store when his cell phone went off. Although I know I shouldnt have looked at his text messages a part of me doesnt trust him completly. I am completly regreting this disision. He had two texts from a woman who he was arranging to hire strippers for 3-5 days at his cabin bachelor party. Since these strippers were coming from a different city they are required to pay lodging fees. So the agreement was that they stay in the cabin. When he came back to the truck I asked him about this. I was fine with the idea that yes strippers may come for a hour or two one or two nights but to have them stay at the cabin for 3 days is riduclous. Since I went through his phone he refuses to talk to me about it, becauase I wasnt suppose to know and only found out because I looked at his texts.
I feel so hurt, and honestly dont know what I should do. I feel like this is the type of thing he should have ran by me?!! To see if I was comfortable with this idea, which im not! The thought that if i didnt read the texts I would have no idea what happened makes me question him, and whether or not I can trust him at all. He claims now the girls are staying in a hotel but will be with them all day and night. Look party all you want have fun with your guys but the fact that he decided to hire “strippers” for the entire time is a) crossing a major line, and b) is the most disrespectful thing he has ever done