Post # 1
A lot of my friends are coming in from out-of-town for the wedding. I have groomsmen from California, DC, NY, etc. I think the best compromise is to have the bachelor party 2 nights before the wedding so people don’t have to travel twice, but the bride is a little concerned about this. I’m not planning on having a blowout, but I will probably drink enough to be hungover the next day (rehearsal is at 5). Do you think this is a bad idea?
Post # 3
@Groominator: I think if the bride thinks it is a bad idea then it is something you need to consider. You’re marrying her, not them. My question to you is this: who would you rather annoy right before your wedding, your bride or your friends? 😉
Post # 4
I would be slightly concerned, but it really depends on the personalities involved.
I know my SO can be the vomit comet when he drinks, and he will continue to feel bad well into the next couple of days, which is not really ideal timing. Also, 2 days before the wedding is kind of a high-stress/high-work timeframe, and I wouldn’t be thrilled to be running around frantically/asking my mom to help to make up for him not being there.
That said, it totally depends on what kind of bachelor party you want to have, and how much responsibility you’re going to have 2 days before the wedding.
Post # 5
I think that is a terrible idea!
Post # 6
You’re an adult capable of making adult decisions. If that’s when you want your party, and you know you will be fully available, and in good spirits, for wedding stuff the next day, then go for it. It’s my opinion that your bride to be should trust you to make good decisions while still having a good time.
If you are a terrible drunk and have done things to make her doubt your ability to be responsible, then expect push back from her. But otherwise, I stand by my “you’re an adult,” mantra.
Post # 7
She’s concerned mainly that I will get too drunk and need more than a day to recover, but not completely against it. It’s just very difficult for me to schedule it since I work most weekends, and our wedding is right after the holidays.
Post # 8
I personally think having the bachelor party two nights before is WAY better than the night before. And since you have people flying out around that time anyway I agree that it would be best two days before. asking people to get a separate flight for a single day might result in a handful of people not being able to make it to the party. Just reassure your lady that you won’t be completely messed up the next day. Maybe set up something fun for her to do while you’re out as well, so she can have a good time as well.
Post # 9
We’re having my bachelorette party 2 nights before our wedding, so I think you should be fine. I assume that since you’re adult enough to get married, you’re adult enough to control your drinking so you don’t have a two-day hangover.
Post # 10
@Groominator: I had a big party in my room the night before the wedding, and I know Darling Husband went out drinking with his friends the night before the wedding!
And our wedding was at 10am. We both made it, and no one wanted to die the next morning!
You should definitely be fine!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
My bachelorette party is two nights before our wedding because, like you, my people are coming from all over the place (Washington, Texas, New York, Virginia, Mississippi). I see no problem with having the bachelor party that close to the wedding because how else are you going to be able to celebrate with your best friends?
Post # 12
@Groominator: I see no problem with this. Our friends got married out of state and the bride and groom both had their bachelor/bachelorette parties 2 days before the wedding – and everyone was fine (minus one bridesmaid) for the rehearsal.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
My Darling Husband and I both had our Bachelor and Bachelorette parties two nights before the wedding. Unfortunately our bridal party is really spread out and there just wasn’t a good way to get everyone back in the same city before the wedding week.
It turned out fine. Darling Husband and I were both pretty hung over Friday morning, but I still made it to our nail salon appointment at 8:30am and we both were fine by the time the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner rolled around.
Post # 14
For the same reason I’m having mine 2 days before the wedding. It really came down to I either have it then or I don’t have one due to most of my guests and wedding party coming in from out of state. I say pick a friend that you really trust and have them monitor your booze level, or have them make sure you drink a glass of water in between each drink.
Post # 15
My FI’s bachelor party is 2 days before the wedding. ALL of our groomsmen except 1 live out of town. My best friend (the one local GM) is the one planning it and everyone arrives into town 2 days before the wedding. So it was just easier to plan it that way. They all know not to go crazy, or they have to deal with ME, and they know they don’t want that!