Post # 1
Ladies, advice please.
A few days ago not by choice I was informed about the activities that are being planned for my Fiance’s Bachelor party. To say the least I am not happy. The boys have planned a day at the range, dinner at a great resturant and then a limo party bus to take them around to all the clubs in the city. I have no issue with the range, dinner and clubbing, what I have an issue with is the female escorts that have been hired to accompany all the men on the party bus. Does anyone else see an issue? The boys are planning on stopping in at a strip club, is this not enough? Would anyone else be upset?
Post # 3
IMO, if they want dates so bad, they should be taking their SO’s. No, I would not be ok with that, and I am very relaxed about what Darling Husband does, but this just pushes that line way too far.
Post # 4
Based on what I believe an escort does I would draw the line at this.
Post # 5
This is what I thought as well. I spoke with the Best Man (who is my brother in law!) and he doesn’t see an issue! His response was ” I have to entertain the boys on the bus some how, it’ an expensive party bus”. I am livid. I understand going to the strippers but hiring escorts! I really have no respect for the best man now plus the boys that are all for this, I don’t know what to do. I have a feeling that this will happen even if I’m told it won’t. What do I do?
Post # 6
Escorts are pretty expensive, and I’m pretty sure the guys wouldn’t be giving out that kind of cash without wanting to get some value for money! Definitely boys taking it too far! Strippers are not ideal, but at least they’ve got a strict don’t touch rule! Can’t say the same for escorts!
Post # 7
You need to talk about this with your FH, it is his party and he should be the one to say no. He should have the respect for you to understand your boundries and honor them. Really, in the end, it is his responsibility, if he doesn’t respect your position, then it is time to re-evaluate your relationship and your role in it.
Post # 8
escorts? isn’t a bachelor party all boys? i agree with @tksjewelry: if they want a date they should take you!! i would be pissed off too, although my Fiance and I have already talked, i have said absolutely no to him (or i for that matter) going to strip clubs or anything like that, and he is against them also. definitely talk to your Fiance about it!!
Post # 9
You totally have a right to be upset! A bachelor party is for boys.. being in vegas on a party bus should be entertaining enough they shouldn’t need escorts around them. Def talk to yo Fiance about it.. I’m sorry what a crappy situation!
Post # 10
I’m very relaxed when it comes to my Darling Husband and think I have a pretty open mind about most stuff. That being said, there is no way in the world I would be ok with this! Maybe I have a warped interpretation of what escorts do, but my understanding is that sexual favors are a part of the job. Not only is that incredibly disrespectful to you, but I also find it disrespectful to your FI! He’s about to marry the love of his life and his ‘friends’ are trying to hook him up with another woman for the night. Not cool.
I’d definitely talk to your Fiance, if he’s ok with this, I think there are some serious discussions that need to take place before your wedding. If he doesn’t like the idea, he needs to put his foot down with his brother and friends telling them he is not ok with that in the slightest and explain why. If they can’t respect his wishes then that speaks volumes about the kind of friends they are.
Seriously, who comes up with these ideas??? UGH!
Post # 11
An escort is different than a stripper in a strip club. They are hired for a reason. NO WAY would I be ok with this!! Stick to your guns girl!
Post # 12
I dunno, it’s the part of his life. let it go and enjoy your soul mate for the rest of your life. One night means nothing, and if he loves you, he won’t do anything inappropriate.
Post # 13
@brandy-lynn: Are you aware of what escorts do? Would you be cool with your Fiance having escorts at his bachelor party?
OP: I would NOT be cool with this. I’m fairly laid back and could care less about strippers or strip clubs but escorts are crossing the line. There are talk of escorts at one of DHs friends bachelor parties that will be happening sometime next year. Darling Husband isn’t going. He’s not comfortable with it and he doesn’t want to be that position. In this situation, it’s the groom who wants them which totally disgusts me. I’m fairly certain that he and his bride will never see their wedding day for this and many other reasons.
I would talk to your Fiance and express your extreme displeasure with his brothers choices. If he doesn’t have the balls to stand up to him and tell him that escorts are out of the question, then that would be a major red flag for me. I’m all for everyone having an awesome time at their respected bachelor(ette) parties but the bride and groom ALWAYS have to remain respectful and loyal to each other. Allowing yourself to be in a vulnerable position with alcohol, escorts and fellow stupid/drunk men is a recipe for disaster.
Post # 14
I would not be ok with this at all. My only advice is to tell him how you feel.
Post # 15
Yeah this would be a deal-breaker for me. Let him know how you feel, in no uncertain terms, ASAP. Hopefully his brother can get his money back.
Post # 16
Agreed. I consider myself to be a very flexible fiance but this is too far. There’s one thing with going to a strip club and another with toting strippers around like they’re dates. Idk maybe it’s just me, but that’s just too personal.