(Closed) Bachelor party etiquette

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What about huge combined bachelor and bachelorette party?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

That’s really bizarre that the groomswomen are offended that they aren’t invited to the bachelor party. I assume they are invited to your bachelorette party and bridal shower? I think all the men from both sides of the bridal party should be invited to the bachelor party, and all the women from both sides invited to the bachelorette and bridal shower. Hard to say what the etiquette rule is on this one, since including women in the groomsmen is such a new phenomenon, but I think it makes sense for a bachelor party to be an all-male environment if that is what the groom and the best man desire. Just be sure to show the groomswomen a good time yourself, and suggest that they throw a little drinking social occasion themselves for the groom that could be co-ed.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I think the Fiance is being weird.  If they aren’t close enough that he wants to party with them than why did he ask them to be in his party?  Of course it is his party but… I dunno, if he wants to party just with the guys why does he have to call it the bachelor party?  That is supposed to be with his best friends and if these girls are his best friends they should be there.  If he wants to do sexual degrading to women stuff with the guys he can do it in a seperate party.  That might sound a little harsh but really that’s the only stuff/reason why he wouldn’t want his groomswomen there. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Littlestbird,

I think that makes no sense at all.  My party will be me hanging out with my best friends being really intimate and kind of aware of the big step I’m taking and super comfortable no way no how am I including my Fiance wedding party.  I might be dancing like crazy and ogling guys or I might be shooting or I might be watching movies but in any case all my friends being there will make it the intense party it is.  Why in the world would I invite people I don’t know well just because of their genitals? 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Why cant the groomswomen come to your bachelorette party? I dont really think that the groomswomen should be offended by not coming to the bachelor party -its the time for the man to be out with his guy friends and do guy things. Maybe you could have a separate more low key party (or just a night of going out) for everyone together that is separate from your FIs bachelor party so he doesnt feel like hes missing out on anything.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I see both sides… however, I’m not inviting my brothers, who are bridesmen, to my bachelorette… the older one would be hitting on my bridesmaids and the younger one is too young to get into the bars we’re going to. 🙂

I think the groomswomen should plan a separate “bachelor party” that they can go to. If they’re close enough to be in the party, hopefully he wants to spend time with them!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

If it’s about this girl and her making it all about her and him not wanting her there than it seems strange that he asked her to be in his wedding party. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I should have read the rest of the comments. That’s kind of annoying… she should plan a separate road trip for herself if she wants to go so badly!

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