- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Let me begin by saying that I know you’re not supposed to plan/throw your own pre-wedding parties (in this case bachelor/bachelorette). However, I want some opinions on this situation…
Today, Fiance and I were discussing bachelor/bachelorettes and I expressed that I was excited about what my bridesmaids have planned (there has been talk of going out). Fiance confessed that, though he’d like a bachelor party (to just hang out with friends he doesn’t see very often), his guys more than likely won’t have one. He seemed a bit bummed out.
I feel so bad (and I don’t want him sitting at home alone while I’m out). I mean, his friends (with the exception of one groomsman) are the MOST irresponsible and unreliable group of people I have ever met. I hate to say this, but they’re a group of man-children. So, I agree with Fiance that I highly doubt any one of them will even suggest doing anything for him. This makes me mad because he does so much for his friends and doesn’t even get a ‘thank you.’ (Examples: He let four of his friends live with him at the same time, rent free, for a few months before we started dating and let his ‘best friend’ borrow $500 last year and he said he’d pay Fiance back in October. It’s now January and nothing).
There’s always the possibility that I’m wrong, but I don’t think I am. So, my question is this: Is it okay to work with the only groomsman I trust to plan something for Fiance as a surprise? I know he’d be more than excited, especially since Fiance is his best man (this groomsman is getting married a few months after us) and is planning a really nice day trip for him. (Of course I’ll talk to the rest of FI’s groomsmen to confirm no one is already planning something).