Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Kukahiko Estate
My FI is the best man in his friend’s wedding and thus is planning the bachelor party. FI was looking online at hotels for the party and he mentions that 2 / 6 of the groomsmen are unable to come.
A little background is that FI had the idea to go to Detroit for the Auto Show in Jan. The groom is really into cars and would love to go to that. However, when FI asked everyone if they could go, 2 said no. The 2 that can’t come are under 21 and would be unable to participate in going to bars even if they stayed in the area. They also mentioned that they did not have enough money to come and could not take time away from school.
I offhandedly mentioned to FI that I guess that is ok, as long as everyone involved is ok with that (making sure the groom is ok with that and you aren’t leaving the 2 groomsmen totally out). To him, since the Auto Show is basically the best thing they could do, it doesn’t matter that not everyone can go. My thoughts were that the party is more about the groomsmen and groom all bonding before the wedding, and if you are traveling somewhere you should make sure everyone can go.
Thoughts on this? I’m just curious, FI has no intention of changing the plans.
Post # 3
I think no matter what there will be people who can’t/don’t want to go. Even if they went to a local bar, the same issue of time away from school, age, and cash flow exist.
I do think it’s nice your FI is planning something the groom will enjoy. It would be nice if everyone could come but it’s more important that the folks who will be there have fun.
That’s just me though 🙂
Post # 4
@penguinbee: The bachelor party is about what the groom would most want to do with his buddies. I think if this is the best idea and the groom will be excited than that’s all that matters. There is always the possibility that people can’t come to things like this. I say keep up with the original plan like your FI is going to do 🙂
Post # 5
Shoot, I mis-read your poll. I think as long as the groom is okay that not everyone can make it, then it’s fine!
Post # 6
I think it’s really up to the groom. Would he rather go to the auto show, or would he rather have all of the guys at the party? I agree that it may be tough to get all of the guys free all at once no matter what the plan is. All of my bridesmaids would have ideally been able to make my bachelorette party, but one was unable because she was out of town for the whole summer and only coming into town for my wedding.