(Closed) Bachelor party the night before?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would never let my Fiance have his bachelor party the night before the wedding! It sounds like a nightmare waiting to happen! Good luck, hope you can talk him out of it!

Post # 4
8437 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@sheepandbear:  Depends on the bachelor party.  If the guys were going out for a round of golf during the day, then coming back and having a poker night, I wouldn’t be too concerned.  If they’re planning on bar hopping, clubs and general drunken debauchery, I’d be worried.

Post # 5
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Not crazy – I would feel exactly the same way.  Explain all of this to your husband, and if he still insists on having his bachelor party the night before, ask if he and his groomsmen can just go get a nice dinner together and be back at a decent hour.  I understand that the bachelor/bachelorette party is supposed to be about your last hurrah before getting married, but practicality comes first for me 🙂

Post # 6
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Absolutely not. You are right in all of your concerns. If that is the only day they can do it then either they have a low key dinner and a few drinks and he is home and in bed by 11 or they don’t do one at all…IMO anyway.

Post # 7
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You’re not crazy.  It’s a TERRIBLE idea.  We did something kinda weird the night before ours – we didn’t have a rehearsal, so I went out to dinner with my family and Out of Town people, and he went out to dinner with his best man and an Out of Town friend.  I was staying at our apt and he was staying at our reception hotel.  It was awesome!  He had already had his bachelor party in Vegas a few weeks before.

He’ll be exhausted if he goes out the night before.  The Colombian is just gonna have to deal.  Put your foot down.

Post # 8
6014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

No way.  He’s going to be hungover/exhausted.  I do agree it depends on the type of party  but these guys haven’t seen each other in a while .. it’s going to be kind of wild. 


One of my brother’s had his the night before, he almost passed out in the middle of the cathedral.   He still had some glitter in his hair…. 🙁 

Post # 9
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would totally NOT allow my fiance to have his bachelor party the night before the wedding. Its a given he will get drunk and probably wont get much sleep so he will not be able to enjoy the big day as much. Also the fact that he could oversleep, be hungover, etc. To compromise, I would say have two seperate shindigs. A night out with the one that lives in your state and maybe just a relaxed dinner/baseball game, etc. with the out of state one the night before.

Post # 10
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Common sense, it’s a stupid idea. Who wants to be hungover and exhausted on their wedding day? I wouldn’t tell him he “Can’t” so you don’t sound controlling, but remind him how early he has to be up, show him the timeline for the day, and help him change his mind and realize what all has to be done and what the day will consist of. 

Post # 11
9829 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I wouldn’t be ok with this either! The night before your wedding, he will be exhausted if not hungover the next day! And I would be certain to make sure he draws the line with the groomsman who wants him to get a happy ending – cheat on you!

Post # 12
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with the other bees…it’s not a good idea! My friend had his bachelor party the night before his wedding and he was so hungover during the ceremony it was awful. Also, the groomsmen were struggling too. One actually threw up at the reception because he was so hungover (yuck!) His wife was such a good sport, but I felt so bad for her!

Post # 13
1176 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Catastrophe waiting to happen if drinking is involved…

Post # 14
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This seems like a really bad idea. 


Post # 16
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sheepandbear:  Why is the decision up to you?  I don’t mean that in a snarky way – just saying your fiance’ is a big boy.  He should be able to appreciate the fact that this just isn’t a good idea. If he can’t, then you can certainly verbalize your very valid concers and let him make the decision.  

That said, I personally would build a pretty strong case against a bachelor party the night before the wedding – that’s just asking for stress and problems you don’t need.  He doesn’t need to be hungover or exhausted on your wedding day and you don’t need to be stressed and resentful that he’s not 100% on your wedding day. 

Its just a bad idea.   

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