(Closed) Bachelor party "traditions": what's the difference…?posted 9 years ago in Traditions
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Strippers in home – OK
Strippers in club – Better
Lap dance in home – Not delighted but not mad
Lap dance in club – Don’t care
But as soon as there’s real touching, I’m not so happy. So generally no, to the brothel thing, unless we’d already cleared it for some reason.
Though really now that I think about it I’d consider giving him permission if he really wanted to as like a bucket list thing or something, as long as it was a one time deal and he was safe… especially if it was to do something I wouldn’t do. I don’t really feel super threatened by a one time thing with a professional. IF we talked in advance about it it wouldn’t be cheating.
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
i would choose for my DH not to go to a strip club,but if he choose to there is nothing i can do.thank God he chooses not to,he want nothing to do with them and told his groomsmen DO NOT give me a batch party,the groomsmen are disappointed,
i will probly be taken to one(to see men)im not interested in those men at all,but i will have fun just being out with my girls having fun paying no attention to those men,they are not my type at all,to smooth and to muscular to me,im telling them i rather go to a kareoke bar instead,but i think they will bring me to both,i think my matran of honor wants to go lol
- 9 years ago
@joya_aspera: Oh, I totally agree with you about the judgement thing! It’s so frustrating. “You’re uncomfortable with ________?! TRUST ISSUES!” Uh, no, it’s more like “boundaries” and “respect”. Women get so much pressure (even from other women) to be OK with these things. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting naked women gyrating on your SO; it doesn’t make you “that girl” or automatically mean you don’t trust your man, it means you’re a normal human being! Unless you’re in an open relationship, most women (and men, too) wouldn’t want another person’s anatomy in their partner’s face. What makes strip clubs and bachelor parties get out of jail free cards?
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I don’t think strip clubs, private strippers, or anything inappropriate with women should be permitted at a bachelor party.
It amazes me that a way for the men to celebrate getting married is to be surrounded by nude women. I’m still getting over the fact that my fiance went to a strip club on Friday. And I hate to be “that girl” but I told him flat out last night that if he wants to stay with me he can never go back to a strip club again, even if it’s for a friends bachelor party.
When you are in a monogomous relationship there should be no excuse for going to a strip club.
When you’re in a relationship, most of them don’t start out with “I think I’m going to cheat on my SO while we are together”, you don’t plan it, it just happens. So you should never put yourself in any position for it to happen, no matter if your relationship is rocky.
And even though it’s illegal I know certain strip clubs (my fiance went to one…. Gaaaaaaaaaaah I just want to scream thinking about these things) that will take it to prostitution of the money is right.
Prostitutes (and not just the legal ones) are “just doing their job” but does that make it OK? No.
I’m sick of the “modern world” that believes the man can’t “control his primal instincts” and “it’s only natural for them to look at other naked women” and such and such.
I’m sick of having to divert my daughters eyes away from basic cable television because there is a pretty descriptive sex scene, or the music videos and comercials are full of women wearing less than a bikini.
I may be traditional, but if I am not wearing a bra I wont leave the house, if I’m wearing a tank top I will only go in my yard (or the beach). Granted I find myself beautiful and believe I should be able to show my beauty but there is a difference between classy beauty and trashy beauty.
OK I’m off topic here but I’m getting so tired of hearing “he’s just a man, it’s impossible for a man to only want to have sex with you for the rest of his life” because no, that is not true. It is possible, men are just making excuses so their behavior will be acceptable, but I’m not buying it.
End of rant. Sorry I went off topic but I’m still worked up from the bachelor party on Friday night
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