(Closed) Bachelor Party Upset!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You need to stay out of it, period. If your Fi is upset with her crashing his party, that’s between him and her, and it’s his place and not yours to call her out on it. Likewise for her boyfriend– if he’s got a problem with it, he needs to sort it. Not you. Do your best to distance yourself from this situation because it’s really not your problem at all.

Post # 4
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1109 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t say anything. she already embarassed herself, no need to do it again.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow, sounds like she has some issues she needs to work out!  

 

I wouldn’t write to her….it might just make things awkward.  Maybe have your Fiance talk to his Groomsmen if there is some anger there, but otherwise I’d just let it be.  She’s the one that made things wierd by crashing a bachelor party, not you or your Fiance.  She owes everyone an apology for sure, but it shouldn’t be your responsibility to get it from her.

Post # 7
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3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@fishbone:  +1

 

Don’t create more stress for yourself by inserting yourself into that which does not involve you. If your FH asks you to talk to her, that’s a different story. For now, just be happy that he was mad about a girl showing up in the first place 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@jesssamesssa:  Not everyone who doesn’t care for bachelor parties is jealous and insecure, myself being one of them. She shouldn’t have crashed the party, I agree – her partner should have just stayed home with her if she had such a problem with him going solo.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jesssamesssa:  Yes, that’s definitely one of the hardest things to do….I know I’m not very good at pretending!  But it’s hard to know exactly why she showed up and what really goes on within their relationship, so it is probably just easier to put on the happy face and not get involved, difficult as it may be.  I’m sorry things got so messy!  I hope your Fiance still managed to have a good time despite the drama.

Post # 12
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Newbee

I wouldn’t say anything if your Fiance wants to talk to his Groomsmen that’s his choice. Also I would maybe try to find someone else to do your Bridesmaid or Best Man hair. If they break up and she shows up to do hair she might cause drama again 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@jesssamesssa:  It’s totally inappropriate behaviour, but who knows – maybe her partner asked her to come along and it’s not her fault. My Fiance and I are always togethe when we have spare time (it’s how we like it). Having said that though, not everyone understands how we run our lives, so my Fiance would just decline the party altogether rather than asking me to tag along.

I think you should leave it up to your Fiance to deal with his friends. Otherwise people will be saying the same things about you, i.e. she is controlling, she handles everything for him, blah blah. Everyone will always judge. I’ve just learned to stop caring 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t really get why you care? It’s not like it was your party. If your Fiance had an issue with it, it’s his problem to deal with. It’s really not worth it though. It’s just a bachelor party.  

 

How do you know her boyfriend didn’t invite her to come? I think it’s poor form of you to jump to conclusions that she is insecure and has trust issues. 

This whole situation is pretty immature and really not worth getting upset over or spending a second more thinking about it.

 

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