(Closed) bachelor party … WHYdo they have to happen?!?

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 89
Member
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

View original reply
@MUI831: agreed 70% seems a little high. I think I heard 40% somewhere once… and this strikes me as a metric that would be EXTREMELY difficult to measure… aka unreliable data.

Post # 90
Member
8735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

View original reply
@MUI831: I think that stat probably came from the same place as the stat:

45% of all statistics are made up on the spot

 

Post # 91
Member
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

View original reply
@KatNYC2011: Hahahaha!  That was my thought!

Post # 92
Member
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

http://menstuff.org/issues/byissue/infidelitystats.html

 

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100327180037AArRbRz

 

http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2008/09/24/how-to-keep-him-from-cheating.html

 

So I guess it’s 50%-70%.

Most divorces that I have seen personally is because the man has cheated. From co-workers, to family, to friends.

Women just need to realize that if they put out regularly the man will most likely not cheat. Most polls taken regarding why men cheat show that lack of sex is the main reason.

 

Post # 93
Member
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

And every poll will be different. I meant the 70% just by what I have seen.

Post # 94
Member
5843 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

You’re reading the poll results wrong

70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity.

That means of the women whose men cheated on them 70% were not aware of it.

 So 22% NOT 70% which seems a lot more reasonable.

  • 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
  • Post # 95
    Member
    929 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

    View original reply
    @littleG: “THANKYOU FOR YOUR COMMENT, IT WAS RESPECTFUL AND YOU HAD YOUR OPINION WITH NO SNARKNINESS OR INSULTS… MANY BEES ON HERE COULD LEARN FROM YOU 🙂

     

    Snarky much?

    Post # 96
    Member
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    View original reply
    @LGenz: yes, that’s just one of the many polls out there. That’s one of the lowest ones.

    When I said 70% in my first post, I should’ve stated that it was my estimate by what I’ve seen go in in divorces.

    Sorry for the misunderstanding.

    Post # 97
    Member
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I can see your point of view OP.

    The hotel isn’t such an issue, but when you throw in the fact that his friends do drugs, I would question what other immoral things would be going on. Personally, I wouldn’t be ok with a hotel stay, in the city for a bachelor party either. You can come home, thank you very much.

    Post # 98
    Member
    565 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    View original reply
    @littleG: I apologize , I may not have read all of this post — but did you ever explain why you find sleeping in a hotel immoral? If you’re not worried about strippers, or drugs- what is the harm of sleeping in a  hotel? Do you honestly think it’s wrong for him to sleep in a hotel just because you haven’t before? I think if you actually answer this question some bee’s will be a little more understanding with you.

    It’s just confusing to follow your line of thinking , if you could clear it up some you might receive more empathy.

    Post # 99
    Member
    2583 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    View original reply
    @Kelly S: You do realize that you yourself just contradicted one of the studies you posted?

    Women just need to realize that if they put out regularly the man will most likely not cheat. Most polls taken regarding why men cheat show that lack of sex is the main reason.

    What the study says:

    But when the results came in [from my study] only 8 percent of cheaters said that sexual dissatisfaction was a primary contributor [in cheating] and only 12 percent said the mistress was better looking or in better shape than their wives. It really started to show a completely different pattern than what most expect. In fact, the majority—48 percent—said that the cheating was about an emotional disconnection.

    That aside, you say “knowing groomsmen/best men” as thought they are different from normal men… the man doesn’t change when he becomes a groomsman. Not all men are that sneaky and if her husband was considering having a stripper without telling her, how does he get an A+??

    Anyway, I’m not sure if you’ve read the whole post… the point is that OP doesn’t want her Fiance sleeping in a hotel without her. They aren’t getting strippers, that was decided.

    Post # 100
    Member
    7429 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    View original reply
    @littleG: call me rude all you want, but if you are bullying him into feeling the same way you do (which it seems like, since you cried to him about and THEN he “realized” that was what he wanted. sorry, sounds like you talked him into feeling that way) then I DO feel sorry for him. If he really feels the same, then he wouldn’t have been ok with a hotel in the first place.

    You have every right to feel the way you do, but don’t go calling us rude, and telling us that your Fiance sleeping in a hotel without you is against your morals and values, because that just doesn’t make sense. Just be honest that you aren’t comfortable with it, and your Fiance figured to keep the peace he would go along with it. No harm, no foul.

    Post # 101
    Member
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    This thread has been amazing.

    I agree with most of the PPs that she’s pretty unreasonable regarding the hotel thing, but more than that, I love that people were being quite polite and really not too judgy in response to her, and she complains about everyone judging her and claims that no one has any morals except her. It’s usually the people who are the most sheltered who are the most judgy. But, then, I’m judging (and possibly cheating based on that 70% statistic).

    I would like to see followup on the question that’s been asked a couple times about what would her Fiance do if he had to travel for work and had to stay overnight.

    Post # 102
    Member
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Also,

    View original reply
    @Kelly S: “Women just need to realize that if they put out regularly the man will most likely not cheat.”

    That’s pretty offensive.

    Post # 103
    Member
    1235 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    View original reply
    @KatNYC2011: ROFLMAO

    The topic ‘bachelor party … WHYdo they have to happen?!?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors