(Closed) bachelor party woes / i feel lost

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

well, he respected your wishes.   The strippers did what they normally do.

What did you expect would happen?  (Serious question)

Are you upset because he went ahead and had a bachelor party?  

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I see why you are upset and I would be too but, you didn’t say strippers weren’t allowed.  So technically he did nothing wrong. What exactly did you think was going to happen when they hired strippers?

Who even told you all what went on? I would not have asked about that personally because I wouldn’t want to know the details.

It can’t hurt to go talk with someone about this to work through it.

 

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s gross.  

But you set the boundaries, he respected y our wishes.

I think the best thing is to communicate your feelings and move on.  Also, he needs to grow a pair and learn to say no.

Post # 6
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378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sounds like what strippers DO, especially with the bachelor/groom. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Strippers do that to the groom. They did it with mine! He tried to respect your wishes. You knew there would be a stripper. You can still trust him. This shouldn’t change that.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m kind of confused also? You set boudaries he followed them and you are still upset? Did something else go on that you are leaving out?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Two hours seems like an excessively long time.   Did he tell you becuase he was upset? How did you find out?  

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What did you think happened at bachelor parties? He didn’t do anything you told him not to. I think you need to let it go.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Eh. Bachelor party hijinx. He seems genuinely sorry and concerned with how you’re feeling.

I’d let it go.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What went on does not sound outrageous. It’s what strippers do, especially if you hire them to come to a residence which is what it sounds like happened. If he feels like you guys need to talk to a professional abou him getting a lap dance for 2 hours then maybe something else happened?? That seems a little odd in my opinion. You guys need to talk it out one more time, and then work on moving on from it. If nothing else happened, then don’t let it ruin your relationship. Focus on what you love about him.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@CLA0225:  Did he come?

Women don’t have junk, do they?

I think you need to figure out a way to let this go. He told you, he wasn’t lying, he apparently was embarrased.  

Post # 15
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What went on does not sound outrageous. It’s what strippers do, especially if you hire them to come to a residence which is what it sounds like happened. If he feels like you guys need to talk to a professional abou him getting a lap dance for 2 hours then maybe something else happened?? That seems a little odd in my opinion. You guys need to talk it out one more time, and then work on moving on from it. If nothing else happened, then don’t let it ruin your relationship. Focus on what you love about him.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I will never understand the bachelor/bachelorette party thing.  One of the most disgusting things I’ve ever witnessed took place at a bachelorette party.  And I’m far from a prude.

Ugh.  I think you have no choice but to try and put this out of your mind.  What a nice note to start a marriage on. 

Edit:  OP, may I ask why you didn’t request NO STRIPPERS?  Plenty of guys’ bachelor parties don’t have them and they seem to have a great time in spite of it.

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