- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
Okay, so I need some advice!
The groom’s Bachelor Party is coming up. His groomsmen have been planning it for months and it’s a big surprise for the groom. He doesn’t know what they’re doing, where they are going, who’s invited, etc. So the groomsmen have decided to take a road trip to Chicago with the groom, go to a Cubs game, go out drinking, spend the night there, etc. I guess there are roughly seven men going.
Since the Bachelor Party was taking up a full weekend, I decided to schedule the bride’s Bridal Shower for that weekend, since she’d be home alone and I figured that was a good time to do it because all the ladies will be around without their men.
Now, the groom has one really close female friend. When the bride and groom got engaged, the female friend emphasized to the groom that she hoped the bride would include her in things like the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Unfortunately, the Bachelorette Party was planned for a weekend she could not attend, but the Bridal Shower was the weekend of the Bachelor Party and she was available, so she RSVP’d YES, she was coming.
That RSVP was roughly a week ago. Fast forward to today. I get an e-mail from female friend stating that she has to change her RSVP to the Bridal Shower to a no as she will no longer be able to attend. She claims “the guys” have convinced her to fly out to Chicago and “surprise” the groom.
Here’s my issue. My friend, the bride, has expressed in the past her discomfort with the close relationship between the groom and female friend. She doesn’t love how close the two of them are and I know it makes her kind of uncomfortable when they hang out without her. I’m pretty positive that female friend attending the Bachelor Party will upset the bride, especially since female friend will be the ONLY woman at this party.
I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to talk to female friend, because I don’t think she knows bride is a little insecure and I think bride wouldn’t appreciate me filling female friend in. I also don’t want to talk to bride, because she’s stressed enough as is and I think this would just add to that. I also don’t want to talk to groom, because the whole party is a surprise and I don’t want to ruin it for him.
Any suggestions on what I should do, if anything?