(Closed) Bachelor Party

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

No I totally hear ya… I turned down a trip to mamoth for hte same reasons. However, if this is your Fiancees good friend and he wants to go, you should talk him about it and see where you guys can get the money for it (find cheaperflights, share hotel room etc). It sounds like you don’t know the bride-to-be well so it makes sense that you don’t attend her party. It might be good to have a little break from eachother anyway,  just try not to resent him for going. ( Its hard not say "while you were out partying, I was blah blah blah")

Post # 4
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I totally agree with you! The sound of the trip is wonderful but in the end the money should be spent on your FH’s day not somoene else’s.

I think you’re being very responsable and resaonable and not a party pooper at all! 

Post # 5
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

What is the deal with super-expensive bachelor parties anyway?  My FIs friends (who are all reasonably well off) have a golf weekend at the Coeur d’Alene resort planned.  We certainly hope they are planning on paying his expenses, because we totally don’t have the money for that.  He has tried to suggest a couple of times a less expensive place, but they are not getting the hint.  I think we need to find a way to just tell them we can’t afford it – at which point, if they are planning on footing the bill they can step up and say so.  But it’s a $1000 weekend (and he can drive there!!!) and we just don’t have the extra money.  Its not even a wedding thing – as my parents are being very generous – its about his son starting college at Gonzaga this fall, and having jaw surgery right before the wedding.  So finding the money somewhere else is really not an option.

Post # 7
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

even vegas is expensive these days. my fi’s groomsmen were planning a bach party there but have now dropped those plans due to high costs (we’re on the east coast tho). when i used to think bachelor / bachelorette parties, i thought stretch hummer, bar hopping, and strip club. it’s funny bc our neighborhood is THE place to go for bachelor/ette parties- i see them every weekend (so maybe $100 a person if you get real drunk).  not 2-3 days off work, sitting in an airport & dropping a grand…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Fiance and I have been talking about it just today… he is going to email the guys who are doing the planning, as he agrees that one of them tends to get really out of control spending money (we know that he has HUGE credit card debt, and then complains all the time about his child support).  Also cost will be an issue for some of the guys who have been his friends the longest, as they also have kids in college – he knows they can’t afford their own $1000 weekend, let alone pay for part of his.

The whole financial thing is interesting, isn’t it?  We make about the same amount of money, and together will be pretty well fixed, but with his kids in college the next four years will be sort of a juggling act.  Luckily he is really good about talking about money and priorities – after all, in another five months it will be OUR money, not just HIS money and MY money.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I also don’t understand this trend of super expensive bachelor(ette) parties.  When my cousin got married last summer we took her to dinner and bar hopping, had a great time and spent less than $150 each.  IMO, the costs associated with weddings are insane, especially since not everyone is in the same financial situation (yet they’re all expected to pay hundreds of dollars)!

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