(Closed) Bachelor party…how to not be upset with him

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Were these just random girls he’s never met? Remind yourself that he will most likely never in his life see them again. Remind yourself that trust goes far beyond just saying you trust him and that you must trust 100%. Also, try to put yourself in his shoes. Say you were at a club for your bach party and some random guys started to dance provocatively with you, but you dismissed yourself to get a drink, each time. Just as he dismissed himself. Shake your head at it, smile and say “I hope you had fun, honey!’. He didn’t do anything wrong and I’m happy I read this ppst knowing that. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way but smile! You’re that much closer to getting married!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re being ridiculous! He could’ve NOT told you anything that went on.  Instead to keep the lines of communication open, he told you what happened and how he avoided potentially dangerous situations and you’re STILL upset.  I don’t get it…

Sorry but my co-worker is going thru the same thing right now and I think she’s being ridiculous too so it’s kind of a sore spot.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You are not wrong to be upset AT ALL. I would be pissed. I don’t think anyone’s future husband should be grinding with random women. Also, the “party cove” is more dangerous than a strip club. I’m all for good, clean fun. Why jeopardize a future marriage?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MGNHARRIS9: i dont see the big deal really. so what… he was dancing with girls. hell never see them again. and its great that he told you… because lets be honest, alot of guys wouldnt.  the way i see it he was just out with his boys having a good time. he didnt cheat on you or even come close so i wouldnt worry. just try to stay busy and move past it. this is sposed to be a happy time… not a time to dwell on something so silly.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i agree – i don’t think dancing with girls in bathing suits should be something that you spend so much energy being upset about.  you’re getting married soon!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think he was grinding with them. She said that if they tried anything he would walk away or jump in the water, which is awesome.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I understand why you are upset, that would upset the crap out of me too.

I have a very vivid imagination and to think that he was hanging with other girls on his bachelor party while drinking would bother me to death also.

Did you establish rules before he left for his bachelor party? I think bachelor parties are to only involve men, when women come into the picture than that’s where problems arise and that’s not fair to you.

I think you should definitely let him know how you feel and to know that even if these girls were in their bathing suits that doesn’t make it ok.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Rationally, it’s not a big deal but I would be IRATE if my Fiance danced with a bunch of half naked girls when I wasn’t around. 

Sometimes the things that make us mad are not rational.

I would say this is something you need to let go for your own sanity.  Maybe go for a run, or go do a bucket of balls at the driving range, or whatever gets your blood flowing and just get it out. Then wash your hands of it.

 

ETA: wth is the party cove?

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you should be upset. He told you. It wasn’t like it was planned. I think your mind is trying to go to worst case scenario and it’s making you overreact. Dancing isn’t sex. It’s dancing.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you are making a big deal out of nothing. Did he cheat on you? Did he not have to tell you?  He didn’t cheat and he told you the truth. He chose to be honest and tell you the truth. I think that says a lot about him. I would chill on the whole thing. 

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