(Closed) Bachelor party…how to not be upset with him

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
1211 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

“anytime a girl would try anything”

I’m sorry but this just sounds really…I don’t know…made up.  Like  they were all sticking their hands down his pants? More than one girl there “tried something” ? I don’t think so.

I doubt anyone tried anything…seriously, unless they just happend to be camping next to the biggest sluts of the universe. i wouldnt worry about it.

Post # 18
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MGNHARRIS9: I hope some of the PPs have made you feel a little bit better. Honestly I think how he reacted to hurting you proves how trustworthy and sweet he is. You’re such a lucky person to be marrying him!

He doesn’t normally drink a lot and party in a place where there are lots of girls, he didn’t cheat on you, he tried to have minimal contact with any people of the opposite sex, he told you about it, and he apologized for hurting you. The fact that he told you and even apologized for making you upset (assuming he was genuine in it) would totally make me breathe easily and be able to just let it go.

Everyone has a different level of comfort and what they consider ‘inappropriate’, so I understand that you were hurt from it. But all these things said, sounds like you’re marrying a wonderful person and you have every reason to be happy about looking toward your wedding day! Smile

Post # 20
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

The rational part of me wants to be like no big deal. BUT I know if it were me I would feel just as upset and hurt as you do!! The good thing is that he did tell you. Its awesome that you guys have good communication like that!! I think its good you told him it bugs you.. You need to be able to share your feelings like that. He didnt do this to intentionally hurt you. Guys just dont use their heads sometimes… or they do but they think differently than us woman. Try not to be to upset. It was his bach party. boys will be boys. Now its back to reality in a sense but he didnt try to hurt you or really do anything inappropriate… even tho it is upsetting.

Post # 22
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MGNHARRIS9: *big hugs*

I would by lying if I said I wouldn’t feel the same way. You are handling it very well. Just remember that you love him and trust him and nothing wrong was done.

And we are all here for you!

Post # 23
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MGNHARRIS9: Exactly. Our minds are our worst enemies sometimes. And if he felt really bad about hurting you, it would definitely help me move on from it. Another way to look at it, especially if this isn’t like him…imagine if you had your bachelorette party and some girls invited a few guys over to dance with all of you or got you to take too many shots or something. Not sure if you’d speak up about it or feel weird telling people it made you uncomfortable. But more than likely with his bachelor party it just sort of happened, the rest of the guys were into it, and he just sorta went with the flow.

Post # 24
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MGNHARRIS9: I wouldnt worry about it. Its his “last night of freedom” i am insititing a dont ask dont tell that will go both ways.

If this is totally out of charachter do not stress about it. 🙂

Post # 26
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010


This is a whole other ball game and now I’m not sure about my original answer:

Well he was honest and said it was like he was center of atention and they were tell him he was hot and had a great body and who wouldnt like that and he said it was nice hearing that so i dont think he really stop them but didnt go anywhere with it. I know he is a flurt and he doesnt see it as wrong but it bothers me what do you think?

If you know he’s a flirt and he admits he likes the attention, do you suspect he is not telling you something more that happened?

Post # 28
1781 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have to say, I just googled “Party Cove”… I believe I would be upset, too.

I am wondering if anyone else googled it before responding.

OP– is that what it is (on google)?  I have never heard of it.

Did you know there was a party cove?


Post # 30
18 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance just got back from his Bachelor party weekend in NYC last night.  He was gone for 3 days and two nighs.  He drank a ton!!  When to lots of bars.  His phone died on Saturday at lunch time and I didnt hear from him for 20 hours or so.  And he not only went to a strip club but he had 4 lap dances. 

I’m not mad.  He came home to me and was happy to be home. 🙂

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