Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a dilemma about our respective parties.
I am going to a local bar, hanging out with my girls and then staying at a nice hotel in the area where we live.
My FH is going on a short trip to stay the night, gamble and drink with his guys in a town about three hours from our hometown.
So, my question is: who should pay for what in these circumstances? Should the BMs and Groomsmen foot the bills?
Post # 3
They SHOULD but (especially if the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen are young) they might not be aware of this. You might want to casually bring it up before or maybe keep some cash at hand for that night.
Post # 4
It would be nice if they did, but it should not be an expectation. I had my bachelorette last night – similar to you, staying in hotel, went out for dinner, then off to the bar. My girls paid for dinner for me, and bought me a few drinks, but I paid for my fair share of the hotel and any other meals (am brunch, lunch the day before) and drinks I had.
I would plan specifically to pay for your fair share, and if they surprise you by paying for some things (or everything), then that is just icing on the cake.
Post # 5
There isn’t a rule about who pays. You should each be prepared to pay your way, until/unless you’re told otherwise.
If you wear something that designates you are a bride-to-be, you’ll be likely to get free drinks.