Bachelorette- Bridesmaids’ spending

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

That depends on way too many factors for there to be a “normal.”  

Best thing to do is to decide together how much you can actually afford, and then plan a bachelorette party that works within your budget. If there are varying budgets within the group, make your plans based on the lowest budget, not the highest.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I don’t think their is a “normal” amount really. It totally depends on age, job, other commitments etc.

Are the the bride or a bridesmaid?  The other bridesmaids personal budget is more important to consider than trying to gauge what is normal. Have you asked the others what they would be comfortable spending? 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Normal doesn’t exist. 

The amount is what ever you can afford and are willing to spend. Bachelorette parties aren’t standardized nor must they meet a certain minimum standard.  So if you all can only afford to spend $50, then you seek out activities and accommodations that will only cost each of you $50.  No one should feel obligated to spend outside their budget, nor should anyone be dictating someone else’s budget for them.  Individually ask each person their budget and move on from there…That is what your “normal” is then.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

All the bridesmaids need to get together and decide on a budget they are comfortable with.

Some girls have $1000+/person destination bachelorettes in Vegas and some have a night of dinner/drinks at a local bar. It really depends on the bridesmaids.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

kate4488 :  I agree with the others. We can’t tell you what a normal amount is. I would sit with my BMS and brainstorm and only commit if everyone could afford it / was happy to spend the money. 

Post # 7
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

In my friend group, while we can afford to fly out for a special trip like this, most of us will be saving for it and conscious of the cost of activities and restaurants. For us, $100 a night or less is a reasonable expectation for a hotel. Better chance of savings in an Airbnb.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The normal amount is what each person says theycan afford to spend.

Post # 9
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578 posts
Busy bee

Previous posters have already mentioned how there is not a normal.. but for reference I’m going to a bach in Montreal and we are driving (about 7 hours) and rented an airBNB loft. It’s $130 per girl for 2 nights (so $65 a night per person).

I’ve done another bach overnight at a cottage and it was $50 pp for the rental

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Definitely not a “normal” amount. Some people make $0 a year and some make $500,000 a year. What I think is expensive I’m sure others would think is pocket change. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

$50-$100 per person total would be a broad range of what I’d consider “normal” for a mid-20s group of recent college grads. My bridesmaids are mostly students, so we had to go super cheap on accommodations. Our AirbnB was $50/person for 2 nights total for 3 people on the outskirts of town.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

i’d consult the other bridesmaids to find out what there budgets are and show them a couple of options. There’s not really a normal as others have said, there are too many factors

But as an example, for my friend group (late 20s/early 30s, live in major city, professional but not loaded, child-free) the expected cost of group trips is probably $75-$125 per night. But it totally depends where you’re going. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

For mine the girls paid $70 For 2 nights accomodation.  This was in a large house and another $40 For food and activities externally. My mum also brought up tons of food and drink so they didn’t have to work about breakfast or lunch. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper

Traditionally normal is zero. For one, bachelorettes are not even a recognized or sanctioned pre-wedding event, at least etiquette-wise. And a night out with local friends was never supposed to be a burden on those already spending money to travel to or be in your wedding. 

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