- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
One of my bridesmaids emailed me this morning to get started on planning my bachelorette party. Great! Except she basically told me that all of the bridesmaids are too busy so there are only 2 Fridays between now and the wedding that they’re all available. Otherwise, we’d have to wait until the week before my wedding.
I’m incredibly saddened by this for a number of reasons.
First, I commute 2 hours to work each way, every day. So if we do it on a Friday, I have to get up early, work all day, come home late, then go out all night. I’m the only one who works that far and the only one who would be inconvenienced by having it on a Friday. The bride being inconvenienced by her own bachelorette party just seems absurd!
Second, I have pre-wedding appointments scheduled for most Saturday mornings, so I would also have to rearrange these appointments so that I don’t miss and/or show up a tired/hungover mess to any of them if we do end up having the bachelorette on a Friday.
She did give me the option of doing it the weekend before my wedding but I’m really nervous about agreeing to that. Partially because I’m afraid I’ll be too stressed out to enjoy myself. But also because it’s Memorial Day Weekend and I know that places are going to be packed and prices for everything are going to skyrocket. I don’t want to deal with big crowds, and I don’t want my girls to end up spending too much money (when I already feel guilty about having them spend money on me in the first place).
And last but not least, I feel like no one is willing to make a real effort to celebrate my bachelorette with me, or give me any more than a few hours of their time on a Friday night. 🙁
Am I being unreasonable? Do I have room to object? I don’t want to basically have to force someone to change their plans, but at the same time why do I have to be the one to change mine? What would you do in this situation?