Post # 1
Alright I have to start this off that, by the books this is what I wanted to do. Very low key.. but my MOHs attitude really upset me.
I told my girls all i wanted was to go out for a nice dinner and then have drinks at my place. We even set up a little sundae bar and all of that. We had a nice dinner, everyone got along which was great. These friends of mine are from different parts of my life so we had never hung out all together so it was a total relief everyone got along.
Dinner went by fine, food was great and they picked up my tab.. totally unexpected.
THen we get back to my place. We make the sundaes and proceed to the back porch for drinks bc it was so nice outside.
One of my gfs doesnt drink, so it was me and one other drinking a cocktail. My moh said she had to drive soon so didnt drink anything… which sorta bummed me out. I mean I dont want to force anything on her but it wasn’t just that she wasn’t drinking.. but she kept her purse in her lap the entire time. Checked her phone and was totally vacant of real conversation. I asked what time it was (my mistake) and she said AH its 11… i should get home… i have work in the morning!
Thing is she didn’t have work until noon. I had one cocktail and the girls kind of filed out feeling awkward about my Maid/Matron of Honor leaving.
So I sat at home, alone, stone cold sober for my bachelorette and while it was sort of what I wanted, nothing crazy, I didn’t want to have one cocktail and have my moh just bail. I wanted to go to bed with a nice buzz and feeling like it was a great time.
Fiance had his bachelor party last night… his guys drove him up to baltimore and it sounds like they had a blast. I dont wanna come off as a grumo when he gets home.. i just needed to vent. =[
Post # 3
I’m sorry. That is really no fun when things don’t go as you want them to! But try not to let it get you down!! It wasn’t PERFECT, but did you have fun beforehand??
Post # 4
Im just so dissapoited in her… it seemed like she didnt want to be there and it really made my experience worse. I was focused on her and her purse and her checking her phone every minute. I just can’t believe it… I regret even having her stand up there with me.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I would be disappointed too, bc ultimately everyone wants to feel like their friends are there for them on events like a bachelorette party, I’m sorry! Bad form on your MOH’s part to be such a downer…
Post # 6
I mean especially since 2 months ago she asked me to plan my bachelorette and I said I wanted to have like girl party (we used to have them a lot in undergrad) where it was just a bunch of girlfriends having lots of drinks, dancing and having fun. But…. it was like.. stone cold sober, purse clenching and she DARTED out. I felt so unloved. Like i said she wanted to plan it so I said cool awesome.. have at it.. the 2 days ago shes like “so do you have any plans for it?” FML.
Post # 7
Since she asked you that 2 days before, and your wedding is coming up so soon. She probably didn’t take the time to plan it and then realized that there isn’t really much time left to do it. She threw something together really quick and it just happened to be on a date that wasn’t good for her.
That isn’t an excuse, she should have had it at least outlined with a good idea of what she was going to do. I’m sorry it wasn’t a good experience for you and I would probably be bummed about it too. I wish there were more time for you to have another go at it. Maybe you could talk to her about it and tell her that you really appreciate what she tried to do but that you ended up at home alone at 11pm for your Bachelorette Party and that’s not really what you had in mind. Since no one drank, I hope you didn’t spend a lot of money on drinks.
Post # 8
Maybe something was going on with her personally (doesn’t excuse, but might explain, her behavior). When you calm down, maybe you can reach out to her and find the reason, which would make her feel better.
Post # 9
Could you clarify something for me? What day did you have your bachelorette party on? Was it a difficult day for people to stay out late on – like a Wed or a Thurs – or does your Maid/Matron of Honor have a tough work schedule that requires her to work on the weekends? It can be harder for people to hang out and drink when they have to work the next day – but I’m really sorry your Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t more enthusiastic.
Post # 10
I can understand why you would be bummed. Personally though if I had to work the next day I wouldn’t drink either, because depending on how much I drink I will have a terrible hangover the next day, and it sucks, but that’s all I would have not of done was drink. I wuoldn’t of been holding my purse for dear life the whole night and chacking my phone every minute either. I would of enjoyed your bachorlette party without drinking, and watched you get buzzed, haha, but I don’t know, maybe she has somethign going on. Wait to cool down, and reach out to her to let her know how you felt and ask her if there is anything going on, and that you want to know because you care about her, like the other bees have suggested. Good luck. =]
Post # 11
My bach party was totally a let down too, so I feel you. One of my BMs really screwed up the planning (well another girl screwed it up, but she should have caught it and corrected it a month before), and then during dinner she was texting and checking her phone all the time and I was sitting right beside her!!! I almost yelled at her! It was so disrespectful! Then she left early because she had to work on a huge presentation for work a couple days later, but I couldn’t help but feel like her boyfriend was going to show up later or whatever, hence all the texting.
Just try to focus on the fun parts and realize that the girls had their hearts in the right place. That’s what I keep telling myself anyways. Ugh. It sucks. Through and through, I agree. Fiance went to the Bahamas for a week with his guys, so I feel your jealousy there too 🙁