(Closed) Bachelorette Do and Do Not list?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I wouldn’t give them a list, they probably won’t follow it anyways LOL my sister said no strippers the first place we took her to was a strip club and it was so funny and corny and everyone was laughing and she had a great time.  Just let them plan it and let it be a surprise.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t give my BMs a do and don’t list. If you have specific preferences, I might mention them casually in conversation (if they bring up the party), but I would just let it go and have a good time. I’m sure they know you well enough to know what you’d like. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think an entire list might be a bit controlling, but my Maid/Matron of Honor knows I don’t want penis or stripper things.  If I gave her a list of things I want, I feel like that would be me dictating what she has to do, and that doesn’t seem fair.  It is, after all, a gift.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think lists/emails come off as controlling. I would just talk to your Maid/Matron of Honor or whoever in the bridal party will respect your wishes. I told my Maid/Matron of Honor no penis anything and no strippers under any circumstances and she complied.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

My sister knows me well enough that I dont find things like penis straws funny. Nor did I want to do big clubs. She planned the perfect weekend without me having to give her “rules”. We did have general discussions as the months went by that probably gave her some direction thought.

I wouldnt have had a Maid/Matron of Honor that didnt know me well enough to plan something I would enjoy. Maybe for some people to do the exact opposite of they would want is funny, but not to me. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If there is something your really uncomfortable with, speak up! I went to one a year ago, and the bride said “NO strippers!!” Well the girls in her bridal party thought it would be fun to hire 3 to come to the house, we all new except for her. All together it was a really fun night, drinks, funny games and very laid back, but when the strippers or “cops” came, the bride threw a fit!! She said sorry to the strippers and showed them out, but freaked on the BM’s and it ruined the night. She explained she felt so uncomfortable with them touching her, and she didnt want her husband  to be going to them (which he didnt) so why should she want them. Shes a good catholic girl, like the one who goes to church ever sunday and sweet as pie. But it just wasnt right that her BM’s did that to her.

There are somethings if you let loose and have a fun time, you probley wont care about and have fun…but if you do have an issue, dont worry about speaking up.

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just hint at what you want. Relax and enjoy your bachlorette party! Your friends know you and what you will enjoy.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I don’t think I’d suggest making a list, necessarily, but do speak up if you’re adamant about NOT wanting to do something.  Your bridal party should know you best…

I had two friends that tried to plan my stagette (without the consent of my MOH), making it into a typical stag with bar-hopping and everything else I’m not into AT ALL.  I had to step in and tell them to leave it up to my Maid/Matron of Honor and to just help her out.  SO glad I did, the night was exactly how I would have wanted it! 

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t do a list.. because my BMs are throwing me a party and I will just be greatful for that. One of my BMs however, has discused all the options with me and we therefore got an idea of what I like and don’t like.. One of the issues were strippers. I am just not a fan of male strippers in general.. so they all know that BUT if they did hire a stripper.. I just ask that he be smoking lol! 

Post # 12
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would just verbally tell them the kind of party you’d like casually and very clearly tell them what would be out of bounds for you (like strippers). Try not to sound overbearing, they are supposed to be throwing this party for you. They’ll want to do something you’d like, don’t worry! 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Agree, don’t make a list. If you don’t want strippers talk to your best friend and tell her that its not a situation you’ll want to be in a prefer if they refrain from making those plans.

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