Post # 1
Hello ladies 🙂
I have a few questions and just have my planning underway for my October 4, 2014 wedding.
My bachelorette is going to be in Las Vegas – I have a pretty wild group of girl friends (some single) and the ones taken, we already agreed Vegas for our bachelorettes is the only time we will ever get to go to Sin City lol… My Maid/Matron of Honor is organizing it but I am included in on discussions regarding packages, flights, etc.
I am not sure what the etiquette is for Brides paying for some/all of their own bachelorette parties? I have 9-10 girls wanting to go including myself. I will be the only married-to-be woman there and the first bachelorette party of all attendees! I don’t know who covers what, or what to expect. I just assumed I would pay my entire trip – However, I always thought if any of my girls got married I would have no issue splitting the cost with everyone to pay for the bride. Obviously, I would never ask or hint- I will just pay for everything myself unless anyone offers otherwise.
Also, my Maid/Matron of Honor has invited her boyfriend’s sister who I have never met. She wouldn’t be invited to my wedding either, don’t even know the girl- but maybe after the bachelorette I would! Is this weird she did that without even asking me?
On a side note, few things I have wondered about the actual wedding day.. There are some items I need to provide like a seating chart, name tags for seating placement, etc. Do I delegate someone to set this up before the reception and to collect after the reception? Or who would be in charge of collecting the guest gifts or a money box with cards/envelopes to return to us when we leave? Everyone we know will probably be drinking and guests at the wedding, that I can’t see people being in a good state to remember small details like picking up the seating chart board lol..
Post # 3
Welcome to the hive!! 🙂 I live in Edmonton!
I am also hoping to have a bachelorette in Vegas. It was all of my bridesmaids ideas and we are all looking forward to it!
However, I told them right off the bat that they will not be paying my way at all. I want every single person to go and have fun. I told them they could have 1 night there where they can make it all about me! But the rest of the time I just want everyone to enjoy themselves! I don’t feel its fair for them to have to shell out for a free trip for me! Vegas isn’t cheap. Drinks are expensive and food is pretty expensive too. Plus if you wanna do shows and shopping it gets really expensive! The way I look at it if they want to go ahead and buy a bachelorette package at a bar down there then I won’t argue. But there is no way in heck I would let them pay for my flight and hotel!
Also, so things go smoother for me, I want my girls to each have 1 buddy to hang out with. I don’t know if you’ve ever been to vegas but there are a million and one things to do!! And I have a feeling people are gonna wanna do different things! So I figure if atleast everyone has 1 good buddy (Whether they are invited to the wedding or not) then this should eliminate people not enjoying themselves.
Hope this helps 🙂 Good Luck!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
@MrsMounty: I’ve gone to a few bachelorette parties in Vegas, they are always so much fun! We’ve never covered the brides airfare or hotel, but we typically pay for any bachelorette packages we purchase online beforehand at any clubs, pool parties, etc. A group of 9 to 10 girls is pretty large so the amount they would each be asked to contribute would be minimal. It’s a nice gesture but definitely not REQUIRED so i agree with you that you should plan to pay your way until told otherwise.
And yes I think its VERY odd that your Maid/Matron of Honor invited someone you don’t even know without telling you. That would not fly with my group of friends, lol. But what’s done is done, I don’t think you can un-invite her.
I’m not married so I’m no help with your wedding-related questions.
Have fun in Vegas!
Post # 5
@MrsMounty: I’d be prepared to pay my own way and then be happily surprised if it is taken care of.
As far as the wedding day details, that is something that you can either have your coordinator do, or delegate to a responsible party to take care of. For my wedding we hired our own DoC in addition to the venue’s provided coordinator. This way, we can make sure that she brings all of the things we need to the site, check my Fiance and I into our hotel room, make sure the gifts are brought to our room and the cards are, as well before the end of the reception, then gather up everything that we brought in ourselves, pay tips out to everyone who is a vendor, and makes sure everyone is paid & settled with. Honestly, that peace of mind is worth paying some extra bucks.
Post # 6
Thanks for the responses- I certainly have no problem paying my own way and wouldn’t expect anyone to pay my way. I can’t wait, it is going to be such an amazing time!!!